My parents hit me and my two younger brothers, what should I do?

Question

I'm a 16 year old girl and I have two younger brothers aged 12 and 14. As far back as I can remember, my dad has always been too rough with us... if we did something like leave the ice cream out of the freezer he's grab us, shake us, shove us and bang our heads together until we cried. This didn't happen often luckily, since he was hardly ever home. When I was 11, my parents divorced and my mum got custody of us. Ever since the divorce, she's been really stressed and would often scream at us and call us names for no reason or break down in tears. Recently in the last few months she's started hitting me and my youngest brother who is only 12. She hits him usually on the arm or shoulder, hard enough to leave marks. I once caught her strangling him. I've tried asking her to stop, but it doesn't do any good... she thinks that ''hitting is the only way to get through to him.''

In january this year, I couldn't take any more of my mum calling me names, threatening to chuck me out and hitting me... I was dreading finding out what mood she'd come home in. I went to stay with my dad, but at parent's evening the teachers said I was too chatty and didn't pay enough attention (part of the reason for this was my mother's abuse). When my dad heard this, he beat me badly leaving me with bruises and a broken arm, then he dragged me out of the house and drove me back to my mum's house. The hospital involved the police, but my dad denied it and rather than go to court, I dropped the charges. I'm now worried he's going to beat my two brothers because they've gone to stay with him for 2 weeks.

I'm also worried my mum will end up really hurting either my brother or me... what should I do? Mum thinks hitting is okay. Should I tell someone? I don't really have any close friends but if I tell the police my mum will chuck me out and I'll have to go back to the hostel I stayed in for a few weeks after my dad beat me. I'm bipolar and have OCD, so I found it really hard to cope with living on my own...

Thanks for reading and answering

Answer 1

try kids helpline

Answer 2

  I feel that you need to contact the police, right away, and see about moving with some other relatives..This could get worse =C

Answer 3

Thats horrible!

No parent should beat and hit their child like that. And honestly (not to sound unkind) but this story sounds as though you made it up. But if you didnt make it up then I would immediatly call 911 and this time not drop the charges.    

Answer 4

First of all that is disgusting behaviour for parents. The people that gave you life are trying to hurt intentionally. Tell the police, relatives, a teacher or a school counsellor. Always remember you are worthy and you are special and if your parents can't see that well too bad for them. Also try pulling the do you love me act? It may or may not work and if it doesn't get help fast. This is a dangerous environment for you and your brothers. Once you are old enough you will be responsible of your brothers if you are on your own. But try to find a close relative to stay will. Hopefully your parents will be put behind bars for this horrible crime they commited. They are not terrible people but they are terrible for what they did to you and your brothers. Situations like these make me so sad because my parents are so wonderful and I could not even imagine them beating me. I also have two younger brothers as well. Please get help don't stay quite cause know is just gonna suddenly find out you have to come out with this terrible secret your parents have been hiding from the world around you. Be so very careful not to get them angry and defend yourself when they hurt you or your brothers the best you can. Remember they are the wrong ones not you or your brothers. Never feel like you deserve this or you should be punished cause it ain't true not at all. Your life will be so much better when your living in a healthy environment. Dream about those days cause thats what will happen if you spill the secret to a trusted adult. Be safe.

Answer 5

well! ur mom & dad r not doing right

u should anyone of your relative

or your grandparents so that they make them understand

keeping quite will not help u

ur life is really very hard

u can take ur parents to a counsellor

Answer 6

Talk to your school counselor about it.  It is not right at all!

Answer 7

You need to remember that you do NOT deserve this. period. What they are doing is wrong, and there is no excuse for it. You should not have dropped the charges, but as it is, remember, the police are your friends. The only way to get either of them to stop is to get them to get help.  They are sick, in the brain, and they need to see a doctor just like with every other illness. Yes, it may mean that you get taken away for a little while, but the point of that system is that your parents get better so that you can go back. It isn't perfect, but it will get you, and your brothers away from the abuse. No one deserves to be abused. If you decide to wait it out and hope they get better, then call Child services the next time you or either one of your brothers is hit.I think your situation is dangerous, especially with your father, and that you should call child services immediately. They will ask you about all your parents have ever done to you, I know it's hard to tell them how much your parents have hurt you, but you need to tell them everything. They can only help you and your brothers if you are totally honest. Getting yourself and your brothers out of there is the first step in getting all of you to safety and hopefully it is is also the first step in your parents getting the help they need.