My parents ignore me, how do I get their attention?

Question

I'm a 4.0 student, I'm 8th Grade Representative, I've never gotten an F in my life! I have a nice attitude, but I still feel like I'm a loser. I've got friends, I'd consider myself popular... but at home it's a different story. My parents put my 35 year old uncle who lives off our couch on a pedestal. It's not fair, what do I do? I worked my butt off to get 4.0, and the true reason I tried was to get some form of reaction from them. Nothing, At dinner, none of my issues are discussed. Only my uncle's daily dilemmas at work. Please help, I don't want to be the black sheep.

Answer 1

Ask your mum if you can go out for a 'girly day' and try chatting to her while you are there - your parents may be easier to deal with separately than together.

I dont think that they see you as the black sheep - but sometimes parents dont realise that there kids have grown up, and can hold a 'dinner' conversation.  So they dont involve them.

Good luck with you mum

xx

Answer 2

you need to pull your parents aside and let them know how you really feel. Show them all your accomplishments they will never know that thats bothering you if you never let them know.

Answer 3

Just tell your Mom, I don't feel cared about. All you guys seem to talk about is uncle x*x. Even when I have 4.0 nobody's notices me.  

Answer 4

Tell them.  Maybe they don't know how they're making you feel.  And don't let anyone ANYONE stop you from being doing great for yourself.  Because in the end......living well is the BEST revenge.  Even if your parents never give you the attention you feel you deserve, you can go and do great things for yourself and make your life happy.  And when you have children, you won't repeat their mistakes.  As a mother myself, I'd want to know if my child was feeling the way that you are.  Tell them.  At least you know you did your part by communicating.  And, sweetheart, in case nobody else has told you - you're doing an AMAZING job!  I don't know you, but I know someone who is accomplishing what you are deserves to having everyone around them completely proud of them!!!!  You can do great things.......don't let anyone take that away from you.  You obviously have a gift........use it.......to get the best of what life has to offer you!  CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!

Answer 5

Your family seems dramatic....don't stop doing the right thing. I guess the best thing to do is to just keep making good grades and keep yourself busy. They will come around eventually, and if they don't it's their loss