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My parents just don't understand!?

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I'm 15, and all I want to do is go out and have fun.

My parents are just all work and no play.

They're always telling me that if they don't work then they won't have any money to go out etc, and I understand that.

But Seriously! We never go out and do family things.

Another problem is that i've had a few problems recently (not bad problems) but my laptop is broken, my camera is, and I keep asking them to help me out, and they tell me if you leave it for a while, we will get things done, but 2 months later, things are still not done.

I'm always arguing with them! It's driving me mad.

Someone help me please!

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  1. Let me ask you this. Which is more should have a higher priority, Food or your laptop? Your clothing or your camera? Maybe if you did more around the house like doing dishes, vacumming, Dusting with out being ask and not complaining things might get fixed quicker. Maybe the money is so tight at the present time that they just can not do it. Parents do not burden the children with all the finical matter that are going on. You have to help and be willing to make thing easier for them and then they will be more sensitive to the extras that you want. It is not a one-way-street. I hope this will help you in some way to understand things better. Good Luck.


  2. Well it depends, if your parents were in some kind of financial struggle, then they probably cant help you out.

    In this case, try get an afterschool job. (is 15 the legal working age there?)

    Your 15, its understandable to want to have fun, but dont relegate your responsibilities.

    Well, good luck.

  3. Well, thats a very common problem.

    Try to explain to your parents that apart from studies, school n' stuff, you want to have some fun as a normal child. I bet they will understand. If NOT, u may use a relative to persuade them. (ex. your aunt)  

  4. Every teenager thinks their parents are there soley to ruin their life, i've been through it, everyone goes through it-you're not the first. I learned a long time ago that if you give your parents respect (ie: not arguing, doing things without them asking you, just generally being considerate), they will give you respect back and not be so hard on you. Trust has to be earned hun, just give it a go, try having an adult conversation with them-if you want to be treated like and adult, you need to start communicating like one. I know its proabably hard to understand now but when you're older, you'll understand that you're parents love you very much and they just want whats best for you.

  5. well if they dont have the money then they dont have the money, its not exactly an easy time right now with the credit crunch and interest rates and inflation etc, untill things get better economically you may have to learn to do with out your little luxuries for a time

  6. At 15 it's hard to understand that parents have a lot more to worry than just the minor problems you have, I'm not saying that your problems are not important, but stop and think a little, they probably have a lot of pressure at work, and then coming home to your complains must be really stressfull, if you feel that they are not meeting your luxery needs, why don't you write list of the things that they provide for you, and the things you think they are neglecting, and then write them a letter letting them know how you feel, and maybe that way you realize that maybe just maybe you are being a bit selfish. (no offense intended), think about it kid, no everyone have parents that are providing their kids with the essentials, you are blessed to have parents that a least give you that.  God bless you, good luck  

  7. I know what you mean there, and I totally understand you! (I'm 16) I'm in the same situation here, my parents are never listening to me and they consider me a little baby, and we too rarely do something together, like taking dinner out. :(

    My dad drinks a lot of alcohol and he would usually come home drunk and always argue with my mum and I think that every single night they're fighting. It's hurting me much more than it's hurting them, I'm telling you!

    So I say to leave them alone in their troubles, but explain them your feelings, and how would you like them to change and help you with your laptop and camera.

    Good luck! xoxo

  8. tell your parents that you want to go out to the park or some where  in your friends house!!!!! and have a discussion with your parents about going out some where  and have fun!!!!!!!

    hope this helps :)

  9. Hi Becky, I'm sorry To hear about that, I don't know how is the Financial status of ur family, but even though they should at least have sometime to go out, cuz that doesn't seem like reasonable that they dont go out at all, cuz u dont have to spend money when u go out and even if u did it wont be that much to affect their status, so I really dont know why ur family behaving like that, maybe they r planning for something like buying a house or a car or whatever or they r busy with saving money for something else but that doesnt mean they should forget about their daughter they should have sometimes for u, u all go out sometimes, I mean thats the point of working, they r working so u can have a gd life that u deserve to have till u can be an adult and depend on ur own, so I think ur parents busy with their life and forgot about their Daughter.

    I'm gonna give u an advice , u r 15 so I guess u can depend on ur own for a while, try to find some work as a part time just for a short period like one month so u can buy what u need and u will have a gd experience about life as well, I'm 24 and I had the same problem like urs so I've started working since I was 12, so I guess this is the best solution, I know that vacation is almost over and soon u will start going back to school, it would be easier if it was on vacation.

    but anyway from my point of view thats the easiest way I guess, Hope I've helped even if a bit

    Take care and have a nice day and all my best wishes and gd luck to u , feel free to contact me at any time u like

    Best Of Luck :)  

  10. Parents aren't always going to understand you. TRUST ME.

    I'm 17 with traditional African parents so I've got the creme of the stubborn judgemental crop.

    But..you gotta talk to them, you know?

    You need to let your parents know that you want them around more often. The fact that you want them around is a miracle. I wouldn't mind if my parents went away for a month! Yeah, your parents need to work, but you're their daughter. Not a piece of furniture.

    About your parents helping you out, try telling them something like "Hey Mom/Dad, its been two months since you said you would help me out with this. I know you're busy and all, but I would really appreciate your help"

    Also, show your parents that you're responsible. Makes everything a LOT easier on you and them ;D

  11. My Parents are the same. Never doing things as a family ect. All i did was sit them down & tell them, because me & my brother aren't little anymore we can do more things. Cinema, going out for a meal, bowling ect. Just tell them how you feel && that they need to listen more because they're ignoring you. If it doesn't work then do the same to them. Ignore them && tell them things will be fine in a while. They should soon understand how you feel. To prevent you from arguing with them, well thats a hard one haha. You just need to make sure you stay calm with them and everytime you feel your going to start rowing go out with your friends or just go & sit in your room.

    Hope i helped =o)

  12. try to talk to them reasonable try not to argue with them and say that you want to be able to have fun because your only 15 once and you want to be able to hang out with friends as for the broken stuff be persistent tell them that you need your laptop for something hope i helped  

  13. Well i was having the same problem, my parents were afraid i was going to meet a guy when i go out with friends and i hated it.

    So i gues they dont want you to have a boyfriend or they feel imberesed when they are with you or they dont wanna go with you, cant you tell them that they mean a lot and that you love them also that famaly is supose to go out and have some fun.

  14. It may seem like the end of the world, but this is just typical teenage stuff. Of couse you want to go out and do stuff all the time, aqnd have fun but for your parents to do things for you, i.e fix your laptop and camera, you've got to do stuff for them and stop whinging all the time.

    Why not suggest you all go out tomorrow night for tea and somewhere nice, you could maybe sit down like the adults, or at least mature people you are and discuss your 'problems' and grievences you have with your parents?

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