My parents looked at my texts?

Question

I usually delete the bad texts on my cell just in case someone else looks at them, but my phone ran out of batteries & I put it on the recharger then went to the movies with my bf. I am 13 y/o (almost 14) & my parents found out Ive gone to 2nd base (but they don't know I want to stay a virgin until I am done with college).

Then they looked at my pictures and saw my friends and I in changing rooms at the mall in our bras & like laughing & trying on close & pretending to be models & then at the pool tanning in our bikinis & a video tape of me & two of my friends whistling at some guys at one of our country clubs(a total dare!)

Now they think I am S****y & they are bad parents b/c they have't been around most of my life (I was raised mostly by nannies & my bros). I am not very close to them but I dont want them thinking I have s*x, but I cant talk 2 them a/b this stuff b/c again, I am not close to them.

How do I tell them I'm not sexually active and that I am not S****y? Help please!??

Answer 1

Well, if you want to reclaim your innocence and whatnot, you HAVE to talk to them. Or, try writing them a letter. Explain that they may have read some text messages that were not the best to read, but you are saving yourself for marriage. Explain that the pictures were all about fun, and they're not being shown to anyone else or anything of that sort.

Assure them that they are not doing anything wrong, but they need to trust you and don't need to worry about you going down the wrong road.

That letter itself would show how responsible and mature you are in itself.

Answer 2

1: don't be sending / recieving dirty texts. They're bound to get read by someone.

2: talk to them. just do it. they aren't bad parents, your just being a teen. but the whole 2nd base thing. seriously. just stop there. any further & your just asking for trouble.

Answer 3

You're going to have to suck it up and talk to them. If you're old enough to be doing and discussing things like these you're old enough to talk to your parents about the fact that you're NOT doing them.

Answer 4

Not everyone takes those kinds of pictures. Me and my friends NEVER pose half naked. We've posed in bikini's and bathing suits...because we were at pool. Not just because we 'feel' like it. Honestly, for someone your age, that is S****y. You shouldn't be going to ANY base.

Answer 5

Something that you and your parents have to understand is that you are young! You are going to experiment and do things that your parent would not approve of. But something your parents have to understand is they where your age once!! YOU NEED TO SIT DOWN AND TALK WITH THEM!!! This is a learning experience for you as well, BE MORE CAREFUL, but don't fell ashamed about it. Everyone has done something like this, even if they don't admit it. It is ok. Just sit down and talk to them, even if you think they won't understand, they will probably be more understanding then you think!!

Answer 6

Send them a text message. ;)

Answer 7

Your situation reminds me of Miley... The pictures...

Anyway, you need to talk to them. Ask why they think that way about you and explain to them why you did that. You're a teenager and having fun with your friends. You're not trying to have s*x, just have fun and have memories you can share when you get older.

EDIT: Okay... First of all, I didn't say she was a s**t... People need to learn how to read! I just said your situation reminded me of Miley! I just said in my answer that teenagers do that! I even do stuff like that!

LEARN HOW TO READ BEFORE YOU CRITICIZE SOMEONE ELSE! YOU UNDERSTAND THAT?!?!

Answer 8

I would personally sit them down and tell them how I felt! If you act serious they probably will believe you! Yeah don't have s*x that young even if all your friends are doing it! All my friends regret it! So just wait (;

Answer 9

You could talk to them calmly and show your maturity to them. I am going through the same situation (I'm also 13) and sometimes they don't trust me. It's because they love us. All the things you do are normal (well in today's times) and sometimes things you do you regret. basically, you have to be calm and mature, and they will gradually trust you again. I'm glad you don't have strict parents like me, but parents that actually understand.

Bad luck about them finding out, but I'm glad you're staying a virgin until after college (there's not many girls out there anymore, lol!)

Best wishes to you!

Answer 10

consequences and repercussions, even if you are a virgin and intend to stay that way until after college they would still be very upset because of your behavior, theirs nothing you can do to change that. but let them know that your ashamed and embarassed of what they say. and that you now realize it's not funny, and you learned your lesson (if indeed you have learned your lesson) you may think your having fun with friends but everything you do effects those that love you. imagine how your brothers might have felt

Answer 11

well if your parents are over protective like mine then they'd prolly takke you to see a doctoer if your pregnant or have had s*x before. just go on ahead!you have nothing to hide right?just tell them the honest truth

GOOD LUCK!

Answer 12

Well have a talk with them about how you aren't like that.  Don't tell them that your friends take pictures like that too, because then they may not want you hanging out with them.  Do tell them that most girls take pictures that are worse than that, and tell them that you aren't sleeping around and stuff.  Just say what's on your mind.  It may worry them for a while though, regardless of what you tell them.

Answer 13

when i was 15 i didn't take pictures like that...

EDIT: pastor g needs to chill out.

Answer 14

your lucky my parents see every oine that goes on and out of my inbox and they get sent to her phone

Answer 15

Parents should start demanding from cell phone companies that copies of all text messages in bound and out bound be sent to the Dad or Mom via E-mail for everyone in the family.

Parents should also write their state reps to make sure these E-mails are admissible in court.

Remember that the 14 year old girl friend of yours from the net the one you've never met yet in person, might be a 39 year old male pedophile.

And that cute 16 year old boy you've been chatting with might be the same guy.

I've been learning this by watching a 39 year old pedophile who resigned from our church after being accused of having cyber s*x with a teenager in the church.

What I've learned isn't fun but teens need to be warned.

Answer 16

tell them about your college plan! And also mention, you are a teenager, and you are just having fun, but you ARE responsible and know the limits! Tell them that all teens do this kind of stuff. Tell them you arent having s*x! And you are not S****y!

Answer 17

stay home more and actually spend time with them. wear long sleeves and no spaghetti strap shirts or sleeveless shirts

all i can think of.

hope i helped good luck

can you answer my question? its asks whats wrong with me

Answer 18

Just go up to them and be like 'while i dont think that it was right for you to intrude about my privacy and read my txt i dont want you to think bad things about me. The pics and stuff were just girls having fun and im not having s*x and have no desire to have it just yet.' and then walk away. that way you have said what you need to and they have heard and there are no weird silences.

Answer 19

lock ur phone

Answer 20

just tell them...be like, "I want to have an adult conversation with you. Please don't yell at me, I am coming to you first to try to explain what you saw on my phone" (or something like that) make them see that you are being mature about this and explain to them that you aren't having s*x. They will probably get spazzy at some point (they are your parents...its their job to flip out sometimes) Try to handle it as maturely as possible, don't start whining at all or yelling even if they yell at you. Stay calm when they flip and they will probably be surprised with you.

Answer 21

My dad did the same thing! I know this sounds like hopeless advice but just wait until a few days go by if they don't bring it up by then tell them you need to talk with them and explain maturely your situation.

Answer 22

who gives a f*ck they know its gonna happen anyways once ur out of the house o well ur embarrassed for a while get over it

Answer 23

i CAN TOTALLY UNDERSTAND YUH

BUT YUH CAN BLOCK YOUR CELLPHONE WITH A CODE LOL =]

&+ DO THINGS THAT THEY LiKE &+ THAT WiLL SHOW TH3M YUH ARE A GOOD DAUGHTER

<3 GOOD LUCK

Answer 24

well, i think you can explain yourself even if you say you're not close to them..they're still your parents..try asking yourself where are they while you're growing up...maybe they're working for you to have a good future....

Answer 25

i have done things in my life that adults would NEVER consider for  a person my age.so let me tell you this-those are your parents,your own blood, no matter what they should atleast consider believing you no matter if going through thick or thin. god bless you and hope this helps

Answer 26

it sounds to me like your makeing an excuse for everything. Instead of justifying what you did just say i was having fun being a teenager. Its very harmless tanning by the pool, modeling in your bra's all normal teen stuff whilsteling at a cute boy harmless. unless you did it in a super S****y or distasteful way i dont know why your parents would freak. if you know you want to wait til your married and finished with school then you dont need to worry about it. If your parents think your acting S****y then honestly sit them down and tell them you were just playing dont give excuses for everything. tell them there not around enough and if they think your sluttly then maybe they need to talk to you more about s*x and life.

i hope this help a lil but you dont sound S****y you sound like a normal healthy growing girl.

Answer 27

Tell them! Set the record straight!

Answer 28

just tell them.

Answer 29

just because you havent had s*x doesnt mean you are not S****y.... if you are taking pics in your bra n underware with you friends...well you are treading a fine line, i'd personally consider you too S****y to let a future son date is for sure. Yes this is based on a first imprestion, and your first impression is BAD.....

I dont care if **** is on a dare, if you did it, that shows your true personality, which is will to try anything, once......bad attitutde to have, get to church pray for your soul

sorry, preachy...

but seriously..... teens dont understand how ONE PIC can ruin you future, these things tend to turn up later in life when we might be on the verge of a great job, and then WHAM, pic from whe you were 15, looking like a w***e......whole future downt the toilet....