My parents make me pay for everything?

Question

I turned sixteen a month ago.

I started work when i was 15 and ever since then my parents make me pay for everything.

I really needed a new computer and bed and my parents made me pay for it.

They make me pay for my own pillows, duvet covers and bed linen.

I have to pay for getting my pictures developed and i had to even pay for my photo frame.

They have always been strict about things but now its getting ridiculous.

They keep making me buy my clothes from charity places and think things from cheap stores are expensive.

I've tried talking to them about 4 times and every time they have laughed - my parents are hard to deal with and this isn't the only thing that annoys me about them.

Please help?

Answer 1

Maybe they just want you to be independent because when you depend in them too much you will not learn standing on your own feet,after all it's just the start your parents want you to be responsible even though if you already are.besides if you already get a job that's the right time you'll have to pay your own and give them some of what you own.

Answer 2

Sweetie, wut ur parents are doing is making you independent... How else are they going to make their point if they don't do it hands-on??? How else did you learn how to ride a bike....actually trying it, so it's da same concept.

My mom did the same and now i'm so happy that she did because i have been able to be independent in every situation and gets praised by my friends cuz they cant do it. Just relax and go with the flow, I know what they're doing seems harsh, but it's to prepare you for this harsh world.

And getting clothes from charity places...... not a bad idea either. Why spend big bucks for something that it took about $2-5 to make when you can buy them at a good price and have your money go towards more important things?? Where I'm from, I used to see people who drives Mercedes Benz, Lexuses, BMW and who live in prestigous part of town be the main customers at these spots, that's because they know the secret of how to disburse your money. Pay attention when you go to the mall or something of that nature and see who's wearing what...da ones that wanna be hip wearing the best but have a bad car or live in a bad area versus the ones that are in relaxed clothing (prolly from the Goodwill) enjoying themselves but have "rich" qualities about them.

anyways, enjoy the lesson, nothing wrong with it.

Answer 3

well to you it might seem mean but at the same time I think your parents are teaching you resposibility and how to be indendent.so later on when you get older you dont have to depend on someone to be buiyng you stuff you need or want.and now that you have a  job and

making money you can buy what ever you want and they cant say anything.BECAUSE you bought it with your own money.

Answer 4

IF they don't change thier minds theres really nothing you can do.

WHen thier birthday or something comes around don't get them any thing and if they ask why say im to busy buying my own stuff and i can't afford a presant for you.

Also, dont feel to bad my mom makes me pay for my stuff along with she makes my boyfriend to! im gonna be 15 in a couple months and its rediculous. My sister whos living with us STILL shes 17 and when she was 16 she didnt havea  job for a whole year. Til this year my BOYFRIENDS mom got her a job but yet shes ungrateful. SHe makes 8.00  a hour and thats just starting out with.

Try saving up your money because they will evidently make you buy your own car when it comes to it.

SAVE IT UP FOR INSURANCE, GAS CAR and other needs for it.

also start saving up for your own place, you wont regret it later.

I fyou pass by something cute in the mall, don't get it because if you do just picture your car running down the street and you walking.

hope i helped.

Answer 5

it is teaching you responsibility.  thank them for preparing you for adulthood

Answer 6

They're doing that for your own good , that's what every parent should do , that is how my parents taught me and now i have everything i want at 20 years of age without asking them for anything . Don't let them tell you what to do with your money though that's yours , spend it on whatever you want .

Answer 7

They are teaching you skills because you are now two years from eighteen soon you will be a adult so when you get out there on your own you will be able to budget your money wait until you get half the bills for electric and gas and rent and you have to pay for the car and insurance and food then I would start to worry go to college so you will have a good job so make sure you get good grades so you can laugh back one day and thank them

Answer 8

Your parents seem to look on you as a source of income. As you are already making you own way in the world, think about moving out and getting a place of your own. You will have the satisfaction of knowing that you will be working for yourself and not them. And don't forget to take those items with you that YOU have paid for.

Answer 9

You will find this extremely helpful in the future. I've been going thru the same situation as you, but not because they made me pay, it was because I wanted to. You are learning how to take care of yourself and not be spoiled since young, and that will pay off eventually as far as your maturity and personality goes.

Answer 10

Well I can see them trying to teach you a lesson about supporting yourself however, if they feed you and keep a roof over your head. You can't really complain because a computer and photo isn't something necessary to live on.  As long as they feed you and take care of your well being then why are you complaining?

However, if it is costwise that you're not making enough then I suggest talking to your parents about helping out with the bill. Asking them if you pay half and they pay the other half. Compromise and remind them that you're still a minor.

Answer 11

My Mom made me pay for everything, too.  She didn't go as far as a bed and the linens, but everything else.  Tell you what, tho, hon.....it made me independent and self-reliant.  When she was through with me, I was able to take care of myself, which later helped me support a small child after a divorce.

Try not to be too resentful.  Take a great deal of pride in the fact that you are very capable of handling those responsibilities!  There are a lot of people that have never been taught these lessons.

You already know that if you want something, you will have to be able to pay for it.  So many people are buried in credit card debt because they want things but can't really pay for them.

  

Answer 12

My advice is dont get your parents annoyed and do as per their wish unless you get married and start your own married life

Answer 13

This is the first time i encounter that kind of problem..

Well what your parents are doing can make you grow strong and independent, maybe that is what your parents is trying to do its just they cant say it directly in you, those things would do you a lot of help, i think that is they're way for you in preparing for your future coz all of us will going to depend only on our self. I think they're way sucks but i think they're just helping you... Well that is the bright side..

But you know, I'm just thinking,why would a parents will going to do that in they're own daughter, i mean if they love really you, they wont ever do that, if they want to help you to stand on your feet, i think they can use some other way, not like that.. it looks like your a border in your own house..

I really don't know what the h**l is happening with your parents why are they acting like that.. Do you mind... What is the other thing that they are doing on to you aside from that Paying System?

Just look at the bright side for now, i think that just the best way to make you feel better..

Take care okey...