My parents make me sound like such a terrible person.

Question

I was in the car with my mom and friend and my mom and I were talking about her work and whatnot so I asked,"Oh, by the way, how is dads work going?" And she said,"Fine." Well we got home that night and my dad started yelling at me saying,"I don't want you asking about my job in front of your friends, do you understand?!" My mom said,"Yeah, like today in the car, you asked me if dad was going to lose his job." And I said,"What are you talking about?! I asked how his job was going, not if he was going to lose it!" And she started putting words in my mouth that were never said. So then I said,"Well I'm sorry I cared." My mother told me,"No, you don't care! You never ask how your fathers job is doing, you just want attention!"

I can't say one single thing without them yelling at me. What do I do?

Answer 1

Hii this is a tough problem. Sometimes parents overule their kids because they want to believe they are right when they arent.

I suggest you go into your room for a couple of hours. Take a nap or read some magazines or even take a nice warm bubble bath to relax. Once you have relaxed and calm down, go up to your parents and talk to them. If they are just going to yell at you they arent being good parents. Explain to them what you said exactly and apologize for asking about yours dad work in front of your friend even though you didnt think it mattered. Also say you dont want attention you just want to see how your dad is doing in work.

hope this helps and good luck =)

Answer 2

You can talk to your mother when she is in her better mood. BUT if your parents are not the type to listen to what you feel and stufff, then you should just leave the matter alone. Sometimes, it helps to see things from their point of view and/or tolerate such behaviours. Your parents might have had a hard day or such, you might never know.

Answer 3

ouch

Answer 4

Tell them that you are going to have to stop trying to be nice if you are constantly being yelled at for it.  And then just stop talking to them except for the necessary things.

Answer 5

My parents are just like that.. except they're divorced so it's worse.  Tell them how you feel, or just ignore them for a few days see if they can figure it out on their own

Answer 6

Just try to stay clear from them for awhile and don't ask any questions that could possibly end with you getting yelled at. they might be going through a rough patch in there marriage so you being there kid you would most likely to get it taken out on you, especially if your an only child.

Answer 7

try not saying anything.sounds like they are going through a ruff spot and will take it out on whoever they don't have to answer for.

Answer 8

It sounds like you have really crappy parents. There's really not alot you can do, just don't grow up to be like them.

My sister is like that and she'll always be like that. I just try to keep my distance from her. You can't change somebody.

Answer 9

Don't say any thing to them but , "yes","no", and "thank you" for as long as you can. That works with my parents.

Answer 10

It sounds like your parents are having a stressful life and maybe not handling it well.

Hang in there and realize that one day you'll be on your own. Until then, evaluate for yourself if something you've said or done was ill-advised or not when you get criticized. There may sometimes be some truth in what they say to you!

Answer 11

There having issues that they are not making a family disscusion. So forget about whos working,and hows it going. So enjoy you and stay out of there way gurl. Who cares.

Answer 12

unfortunately, your stuck, they are your parents, and im sorry to say they do not sound very nice. In fact they are two immature people who shouldn't be taking care of you, there not responsible enough.

Do you have Aunts and Uncles ? If not talk to someone in authority

maybe someone at school...or even one of your parents close friends, i would contact the one that was in the car when you said what you said in her presence, and say...look i love my parents, but its like i can't say anything without it getting twisted...then go into the details of what happened after she was out of ear shot with what both of your parents said to you, this can be helpful because im sure your Mom is saying all sorts of things to this woman,  so by being honest, this woman may be able to offer you help...once she realizes hey my friend is the pathological liar here, or my friend has deeper issues than i realized, this girl isn't the problem, she knows that first hand, because she was there and heard it first hand...she is your key to help........GOOD Luck......please keep me posted

e-mail me..best to u

Answer 13

my parents are the same,

just go "whatever ive had enough of you all"

Answer 14

I have experience with parents trying to make you look bad. Look them straight in the eye and say "That's not true. Lets sit down and talk about why you would say something like that".

Having a mature response and catching them off guard might prompt an apology on their end.

Of course, you have to be respectful while living with them. It can be difficult, but you'll get through it.  

Answer 15

Tell them how you feel and if they yell say calmly "Thanks for being the kind of parents who don't care about the way i feel" - Good luck !

Answer 16

  Josh I'm sorry. Try jus not talking. Still being respective

   and all. just silently.

Answer 17

Tell your mom what the h**l are you doing lady, this is MY HOUSE, MY RULES

Answer 18

um you could make your parents sound like a terrible person lol  

Answer 19

Wow! I thought I was the only one with this problem! My mom is always yelling about me if I don't answer a question or pose a statement the way she wants me to say it. On the way home yesterday though I told her that she should be a bit more understanding and not just assume that I'm against her all the time. So far it's going ok. In your case, I think you should ask what's wrong? If there's something going on at your dad's job then he's probably pretty sensitive to the subject even if you asked "How was work today?" he might translate that as "Have you been fired yet?". Just be careful what you say and talk to them about why they reacted like that. But wait until you've both calmed down a bit and they're relaxed so you can carry on a calm conversation.

Answer 20

have u tried talking to them about it?

im guessing u probably have but they just do the same thing over again....

i hate it when parents do that. just like dont say or do anything around them and maybe the will start realizing something was wrong  

Answer 21

Stop talking to them and see what then they can yell at you about.

How about this: Say to them: "Mom and Dad, I've been thinking about having you committed, for your own good; would you object to that?"

Then they could yell at you for good reason.

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Answer 22

maybe your parents are having marital problems hun..and worst luck, they are taking their frustrations out on not only each other, but on you as well :(

Answer 23

yell back.

see how they like it.

Answer 24

wow. i would just not talk to them about anything that they would yell at you for. and if they find something to yell at you for just ignore them. my step dad used to be like that with me. and i just ignored him... but im sorry your parents are like that. i know its hard.  

Answer 25

I'm sorry you're having this problem. Stay calm and deal with this with as much dignity as you can, and make your point if and when the opportunity presents itself.

Answer 26

ignore it and dont talk about his job anymore

Answer 27

That is soooo mean! I hate it when parents do that!

Let them cool down. Parents can't hear a THING you say when they're angry like that. Then go to whichever one you know better, your dad or your mom, and explain to them what REALLy happened. you can also ask them how you would get attention by asking that, and if your father is really loosing his job.