My parents saw a s**y pic of me and my boyfriend, now I can't see him!

Question

In the photo it's me and my boyfriend on the floor. I have a bikini top on. My boyfriend has no shirt. He is ontop of me and I have my legs around him. One of his hands is on my stomach, and the other is on my chest. My parents found the pic in my room. They showed the pic to his parents. Now we are both grounded for a month. Then we can see each other again. I know it's not forever, but I miss my boyfriend. We have been talking on the phone a lot. He even snuck out of his house and came over once.

But now my parents don't trust me and think I'm having s*x. I'm not having s*x! I'm 14! How do I gain my parents trust back? Me and my boyfriend are both 14.

Answer 1

I am continually amazed how teens take pics and some even put them on the net and then are surprised when they get in trouble

As for you I would say you will never get them to trust you completely but if you do as you are told and don't do such stupidity again maybe in a year or so

Answer 2

A person has to earn trust.  You have to be trustworthy to be trusted.

You know that a pic like that looks pretty sexually suggestive.  I mean all that touching of bare skin only makes a teen want s*x.  You don't want to be labeled a tramp, so what's with having the sexual pics.

Your parents just don't want you to ruin your life.  Teens get so many STD's now, and unwanted babies too,.

Answer 3

Just tell them that you really care about your boyfriend and if anything it is more like a close friendship. Say you are sorry about the picture and the ideas that it has raised. Re-assure them that you are not having s*x, say im not having s*x because i am not ready, and it would really be nice if you guys would trust me. Just talk to them in a calm manor and maybe they will think you are mature enough to be able to see him again.

good luck

Answer 4

The first thing that you have to realize is that your parents love you and only want the best for you, treat them as a friend. If you want to gain their trust, behave in a responsible way by doing little things around the house before they tell you to. Listen to them and understand where they need help, it could be keeping a clean room, washing the dog/car, or helping with laundry. If you start pulling your weight a little more around the house and keep good grades, your parents will feel that they have done a good job in raising you and that you listen to them. The important thing is to be consistent, keep doing these things even after this event passes. Responsibility = trust. After a few weeks of not complaining and paying your dues, you can start asking for leniency. They will be hard pressed to continue to be strict. If asked about this, admit that you did a stupid thing by posing in a suggestive manner that could be interpreted by others in a bad way and that you will be more careful in the future. If you sound like you believe it, then the punishment worked and you are rehabilitated. This is the intention of the punishment. Forcing the issue any other way will only get you deeper in the hole.

Answer 5

take the punishment and don't have pictures like that around your room unless there hidden. your 14 years old, take things slowly. your not even out of high school yet.

Answer 6

lol im sorry but that just funny, talk abouut court out, i think your parents have every right to think that you two are having s*x with that kind of picture, god i dont know what to say, i dont know how i can help you sorry

Answer 7

Your parents are just trying to protect you.  Try talking to them with your boyfriend present. I  think sometimes parents care so much and you may have scared them a little bit.  Remember they probably still think of you as their "little girl".

A good "grown-up" heart to heart talk may help them realize that you are growing up and you will make your own decisions even if they dont always approve.

I would really suggest that you and your boyfriend be very honest with your parents and try not to sneak around.  Being a teenager is crazy enough without having your parents not believe you or think that your doing things that you are really not.

Even if your parents get mad at you, it really pays off to be honest with them even if it seems really hard.