My parents sometimes still treat me like a child

Question

I am 17 and my parents sometimes still treat me like a child. I have told them so many times that I am not a child anymore and I want to be treated like my age or even sometimes like an adult. For example, my dad goes on craigslist and reads the rants and raves and if it's too gross, he wouldn't tell me or show me so I got upset. Also, when we have family discussions sometimes my parents will go in their room and talk because they think there is some stuff that I shouldn't hear, but I disagree because I am part of this family too. Just so you'll know, I hate secrets, private discussions, etc. But anyway, they act like I can't hear them when I can. They are starting to treat me like an adult sometimes though, but I wish they would stop treating me like a child and start treating me like my age.

Answer 1

My dear,  I am a 58 year old woman and my 80 year old mother still treats me like I am a 10 year old child.... It bugs the bejesus out of me, but I will obviously never change her...  I have a 30 year old son and sometimes I catch myself treating him like a child... it's the nature of mothers... as for their private discussions,  you parents are still entitled to speak to each other without you.... why wouldn't they be?  Maybe the discussions they are having are not so "family" but more something between the two of them....  You may hate secrets and private discussions, but your parents can discuss whatever they want and with or WITHOUT whomever they want.......and by the way dear,  you are not a legal Adult until you reach 18....  don't wish your life away so quickly---you will grow up soon enough.

Answer 2

accept it. they love u! =)

Answer 3

You are a child, sweetheart. They love you and want to protect you.

Answer 4

No matter how old you get, you will always be their little girl.  And their private discussion is so they will be on the same page in the discussion. They want to be a united front and I think it is great they are able to be parents like that.  Count your blessings.  Just show them you are a mature 17 year old and they will come around.

Answer 5

One thing that may make a difference is your approach. If I demanded something, my parents looked at it as a childs action. When I showed that I respected their wishes they began to also respect me as an adult. I think that perhaps they see the demanding to be a part of adult decisions may be making you look more of a child in their eyes. I suggest trying to respect their wishes for a few weeks. Ask your father if he would like you to leave the room before he has to ask. Show that you respect them and you just might be amazed at how they in turn respond to you

Answer 6

a lot of parents wont change my husband is 28 and his parents treat him like he is a stupid child. like doesnt know anything. it annoys me so much he is more responsible then them. and a better father.

Answer 7

get a job save your money and move out at 18

Answer 8

i think most rents do that (well i know mine do)

im still not sure wat to do bout it

i just want to let u know ur not alone

ur question is helping me to

:)