My parents split up .

Question

my parents split up 2 months ago . i did cry then but now its only when i really talk about it . it doesnt seem to bother me . i dont really think much about the divorce because they argued for nearly a year and me and my bro kind of saw it coming . is it normal that im not sad?

Answer 1

u might be dissapointed but not sad. That how it was for me. Sorry dude

Answer 2

SAM, I would like to know how young you are?. I hope you will not go a

strayed now seen that you do not have your Father to Lean on because

you sound like you are @ the stage where you need a male influence in your life & I mean a POSSITIVE male not just a person who wears trousers but a MAN, so what you & your Brother should do if you have a uncle, a Teacher, a neighbor, or some male that you can talk with or even your father, DO NOT, I mean DO NOT turned your back on him not because he & your Mother is not to gather you should remember he is still your Parents, he is still your Father & if it was not he & your

Mother you would not be in this world & it's not really your business it's

your Mother & your Father's Business I hope he did not use to hit her!.

and think about it this way. It is better they Divorce & go there own way more than killing each other or one of them kill the other one so just call your Dad, go & see him & be close with him, I hope your Mother is not telling the both of you any bad thing about him as well, If

she dose, you should tell her in a nice way that you do not want to here those bad things about your father. And BY THE way, Do not be

nasty to your Mother's Friend If or when she should have one try and be good to him if he should be good to you, do not judge him from the

start, if he is nice to you & your brother you should respect him and do not hate him if he is good to the both of you OK??

You ask for help that is why I spend the time to speak to you. may be I could be your Grand Father so please listen to what I have said to you OK BIG MAN??.  

Answer 3

yeah its normal

my mum n dad split up and it was upsetting but after like a week i was back 2 normal

Answer 4

It sounds like you've been resigned to it for a long time, which shows some maturity on your part.

I do feel sad for your mother though, it's possible she still loves your dad and wants to keep trying, but it's hard when the other person really doesn't want to.

I think the best thing to do for your mother is to encourage her to keep busy and active, so that she is at least tired enough to sleep at night - sleep is a great healer of both body and spirit. The last thing she needs is to have other men in her life right now, so don't try to encourage her to date or whatever. Much better that she makes new friends instead, particularly people in similar situations.  

Answer 5

This is exactly what I went through.

I was really upset to start with and cryed myself to sleep but then I got over it and I loved my parents both so much.

It was their decision at the end of the day and it doesn't effect me so much because I still get to see both of them.

Hope you are coping okay.

=]

xo

Answer 6

i was 15 and was not sad either. I was happy my dad left so that everyone could leave more normal healthy lives. He did not have to sleep on the couch anymore and we did not have to listen to them. And 15 year later they are both where they should be....

Answer 7

Absolutely not, sometimes you cry so much you don't have any tears regarding the situation.  I have done that with certain situations in my life and it is just not worth it to get upset.  You can not change the situation so it is okay to not cry anymore just stay strong for you family in general and live with the life that you have been given.  take advantage of what your family still has instead of dwelling on what you don't have anymore.  Good luck

Answer 8

No. Sometimes divorces are chances for new beginnings. Look at it this way, your parents may find other people that make them happy and you will have two sets of parents that will help you acheive things you want in life

Answer 9

ya i mean my parents have been on and off for a few years

at first when they said they we gonna divorce i was depressed and crying my eyes out

but now i am so ok with it theyre not divorced yet but its coming soon and i am ready i am not sad i mean theyre both happy like that together they werent happy

i thinlk that wat matters

Answer 10

If you and ur bro have kinda been stuck in these arguments its probably a relief to you that they have split,,,,, this doesn't stop ya being upset bout the split it just means you can see its better for all this way,,,,, just be there for your mum in any ways you can give her plenty of hugs and tell her a joke or two wen she looks down, support each other just by bein there to listen,,,

none of this means ya folks dont care about you, it just means they cant get on with each other

good luck chuck,

hope ya feel more settled soon

Answer 11

not at all. i have had a similiar experience, with the exception that my parents fought for like 5 years, and we actually kind of hoped for the divorce, so we could have peace and not be depressed and stressed from all the fighting.  sometimes, its better for everyone.