My parents want me to marry a university graduate but my fiancee is not. What do I do?

Question

I don't know of any research result that connects marriage success with level of education. Perhaps, could it be because of financial security?

What should I do cos I don't want to end the relationship wrongly?

Answer 1

Marry who you want and never let anyone tell you who to marry.  

Answer 2

shes not dead yet, so maybe she can go get one after you get married. the education has nothing to do with how good a marriage is, you need to ask you parents to stop  trying to control your life. dont listen to them, start making decisions on your own.

Answer 3

The ONLY thing that you need to do is look into yourself. Ask yourself what YOUR standards are.  So, what are they?   Do you see value in education?   Do you see value in getting married to someone with a 4 year college education?   Do you look at people as "just as smart" even if they do not have a 4 year college degree?  What if a person has 4 or 5 different certifications in Microsoft and CISCO?   Is this person worthy of respect, love and more money?  

It is NOT up to your friends, your parents, your teachers, your dog, your 1st grade teacher who you marry. It is up to YOU.  

If you LOVE your fiancee, and if you are physically attracted to him/her, then marry him/her!    People evolve. As people grow, they change. Remember this.  You may marry this person and say, "What happened to you in 10 years? You are not the person I married!"   Of course not!  People evolve and as we live this thing called life, we change (a little).  

The only way you will end this relationship on a wrong note is if you pre-judge this person, do not return any calls, etc.    Follow your gut.  

Answer 4

You should start making your own decisions and not your parents for you. It is your life, you decide what is right for you. Who knows maybe she will go to university some time later. Being a university graduate is not the key to a successful marriage. And even if she graduates from the university there is no security that she will get a good paying job.  

Answer 5

Tell your spouse to go to university. Problem solved.

Answer 6

Talk to your parents........ but u will also have to address their concern by telling that the financial part will be taken care of... and better have some good plan in mind... :) Good Luck  

Answer 7

If that is what you are basing your relationship on, you are in trouble. How does this woman treat you? Is she honest and caring? Do you feel loved by her? Stop being stuck up an realize that an education, while important in today's society does not equate to a happy marriage.  

Answer 8

tell your parents that youre a big boy, and you can decide who you want to marry.  

Answer 9

Just don't listen to them, obviously...

If you're engaged, then evidently you like her enough and university education isn't important. Besids, she may go to university in the future and graduate.

Harriet

Answer 10

tell your parents to stop being such snobs and marry whoever the h**l you want!

Answer 11

P-diddy would say you have a bad case of b!tchassness.

No woman respects a man who can't be his own man.