My parents want me to quit playing in a band because of the late practice schedule?

Question

i thought everything will go smoothly until.. my "conservative" parents want me to quit playing because i get home really late from band practice. they're afraid i might get kidnapped or raped or something.

i won't ever give up playing. i know they're only concerned for my safety but.. the practice schedule's fixed and i can absolutely do nothing about it.

help. i have to convince them to still let me play!

p.s. im asking for a way to convince them. so no answers on trying to convince ME to just obey and quit, okay?.. thanks.

Answer 1

this always works!

"if you really love me you wont want me to quit"  

they fall for it every time

Answer 2

First of all you have to look at your present and past behavior when asked or told by your parents to do something that concerns your personal safety.

If in fact you have a history of rebellion; you are toast.

If you have  history of following their instructions pretty much without argument; then you have a chance.

Obviously music is a big part of your life and

they should know this.

since they are conservative; you need to show them why it is just as safe at the hours you need to be out as it would be in the day.

Lay out your route to and from practice and the location and then go to your local police station and talk to the desk sergeant.  Explain what you want to do and let him show you the safest routes available and the times by using his crime statistics for the area concerned.

You might want to take your instrument and do a quick demo to show your sincereness.

In anything you do in life you must be willing to go to any lengths to achieve your goals.

Be sure to go at a slow time of the day and week to make sure he has time to help you.

It might take two trips to accomplish.

You would be surprised what a cop will do for a young man that is sincere and does't look like a street hood.

Dress conservatively.

Good luck.

Answer 3

If their concern is your late schedule, then have your rehearsals earlier.

Answer 4

Don't quit. Say to them 'I'm not going to quit because this is what i love to do surely you have had something you have always wanted to do and your heart was set on it? Well this is my thing i love being in a band, i know it is late and your worried but i have my phone on me and i can always call you if i think somethings wrong'

Answer 5

Well, I'd say you're lucky I'm the only girl in a band and they don't let me practice until unless our manager comes.

Which is rare or at school.

They know my bandmates who are my friends but still.

But if you really really want to stay I sugest either

>convincing your band mates to change the schedule.

>go for practice but come back home early.

>Have practices at your place or at a place nearby.

Being in a band with conservative parents sucks I know.

But it's fun :) playing ina group.

Besta luck xx

Answer 6

you need to sit down and talk to them maturely.

if they continue to say no, don't cause drama by complaining, but i would mention to them that they are taking away something you love.

tell them how much band means to you, and let them know of scholarship oppertunities for college, and the friends you make, and that most band kids are respected by teachers.

also, kids that play instruments are proven to have a bit more inteligence then those that just sit on a couch all day and eat potato chips!

tell them that you will be active, and band keeps you in good shape. it teaches discipline, respect, and you will have many great memories.

if your parents still say no, ask them if you can atleast still be in concert band. that way you don't give up music completely. without music, this world would be quite blunt.

my parents are very supportive of me and band. i'm sorry your parents aren't as commited to it. :(

oh, and remind them that they have ommitment problems. they let you do it, and now in the middle of it they are making you quit? haa. what a joke......they have no commitment at all, but you my dear, you seem to have a passion for it. don't let it fade.

goodluck!

Answer 7

Well the simplest answer here since you have your mind made up and they have their minds made up would be to either have mom or dad come with you to the rehearsal or have a relative or someone they know and trust go with you so as to ensure their frayed nerves you are not being abducted by aliens or eaten by polkadotted purple people eaters.  As much as parents are difficult to deal with sometimes, they are there in our life for a reason.  They're not supposed to be a best friend or just one of the guys all the time, their your parent and frankly would really suck at parenting if they did not give a rat's rootie about you being out late.  If your a grown adult it's one thing if your a minor, sorry kid, but those are the breaks until you are 18 and even then it never really stops cause we kids are our parent's babies forever, doesn't matter if you are 18 or 75, it's how family works, well in most cases.

So, as all the others answers here have said, sit down with them and  explain what this means to you and how much you want them to support you with this part of your life.  Inclusion is a great thing and can be the element that changes someone's mind.  Every one needs someone to believe in them, besides themself.  Good luck and I hope things turn out for the best for you and your parents.

Answer 8

if theyre concerned ask them if they can pick you up from practice or promise to walk home with a group of people. if you cant do that, ask the band to meet more often and for shorter periods of time. if that doesnt work, you have to listen to them and quit the band. audition for another one that meets earlier.

Answer 9

If your rehearsals are set in stone when they'll start in stop, then they shouldn't really worry about where you are. \

For example: if practice ends at 8, and it takes you 10 minutes to walk home, and you're not home at 830, then we might have a bit of a problem.

Trry asking them to pick you up or maybe you can ride home with a friend that your parents trust. =)

Answer 10

Try explaining to them that they could have a potential world class musician on thier hands - do they really want to be responsible for going down in history for nearly preventing that!

Nothing like emotional blackmail now and then.

But even though I jest a little there is a lot of truth in it because there are many true cases where young people are stifled and they never or they very late enter the field they always wanted to do since they were very young. Tell them that.

Good luck!

Answer 11

How about getting a trusted family friend to drive you to and from practice.  Maybe even to hang out in our outside of the practice in case anything goes wrong- I know it won't.  Maybe someone older like a grandparent who has extra time?

Answer 12

I would just talk to them about it.

Tell them it's something you really want to do and it's an activity that is a lot better than other things you could be doing your age.  

Tell them you understand their concern, but there has to be some way that you could still attend practices and they won't be as concerned about you.  

You could come up with a hard schedule:

- Call when you get there

- Call half way through practice

- Call before you leave

If they still don't like it...ask if maybe you could have practices there then.  Obviously, that won't likely pass.  But at least they'll know you have really put some effort into finding a way to make this work.  

Also go over again why you can't move practices to earlier.  

If they still won't budge.  Just make sure you practice all the time around them.  Start making them feel guilty.  Just drag your guitar all over the house.  Bring it to the dinner table, while you are all watching TV, out on the patio, where ever.  Just show them you are serious about becoming a better musician.

As much as parents get concerned about you, overall they do want to see you succeed and be happy.  I hope it works out for you !