My parents want so much from me

Question

My parents want me to do everything. I have two jobs that i work 6 days a week and iam a full time student, an i play footbal and run track. I pay my bills when i have to and they want me to do more things on top of that. I've been sleeping a lot because of this and for some reason my parents think I'm doing drugs. every time i talk to them about my overwhelming amount of work iam doing and they say the samething" Your to young to be tired" what can i tell them to make them listen 2 me

Answer 1

my hubby had the same problam he final had to move out on his own and make is own life and final he was able to make things fall in place for him he finshed school payed all his bills and played sports. keep going like this and by the time your 30 you will want to retire becasue you will be to tire to keep going. everyone needs sleep stop puching your self becasue of your parents. tell your parent that they get tired if they do to much your only human and if they still think your on drug go to the doctors with them and get your self test just fot them.

Answer 2

i feel your pain. I am in apaas, and my parents expected me to be my very best and everything and i am so tired from all the summer schools and stuff like that. they kept on comlaining that i was lazy. To tell you the truth, i'm not all that sure of what to say. but what i can tell you is that maybe you should let your parents hang out with you more, get to see what you do. Book some meetings with them, and bring like proof of all that hard work and look a little frustrated. let them see how you feel and what you look like trying to do all this work. i know this isn't something you can tell them, so sorry.

Answer 3

Stop paying bills/rent. nothing gets your parent's attention faster than a hit in the pocket book.

Oh, and as a joke. Walk around with a bag of oregano and some baby powder.  

Answer 4

Speak to your counselor at school and have a meeting called.

Your parents may listen to someone other than you.

It is important to have some down time, and your counselor can explain this concept to them.

Or do you think there is some reason why your folks might want YOU out of the house?  What are they up to?

Answer 5

I raised two teenagers.   In this case, it sounds to me like you are a very good person, working hard and doing well.  It sounds like  your parents are probably taking you a little bit 'for granted' but trust me,  it's only because they want the best for you.  My kids were both straight-A students, both worked, both involved with sports, etc.  As a parent, it's easy to forget how hard your kids are working and expect even more.   Their lives are probably very busy with work and everything else and they don't get enough sleep themselves. It's hard to watch a teenager lying around when there is work to be done around the house and so forth.

Your parents will take you seriously if you approach them like another adult would approach them.  Call a family meeting, and prepare your case.  Write it down, and state it in person.   This is how adults interact at work  - and it will get their attention that you are serious about what you are telling them.   Lay out your case logically, as you have done here, but don't be critical of them. THey are doing their best, so don't get emotional, just state the FACTS and what you'd like them to do differently.  Most importantly - be prepared to LISTEN to what they have to say, they will probably have other good points you have not yet considered.   Good luck.

PS - Teens also need a LOT of sleep,  that's a proven medical fact. Google it. The schedule you're describing would wear anyone out.  You can research this and include those results  in your case.  

Answer 6

Honestly, there is no way to reason with them. I had parents that were like that too. They didn't couldn't understand how much pressure I was under with being a full time student, active in clubs and church and working part time...  You have to remember when they were our age, they didn't have the same pressures we have, all they can remember is having fun and being young... The best thing you can do is just do your best.. You will only live with them for so long and then you'll move on to college, where you'll be free to relax and just be yourself. I know this doesn't help the situation you are in now, but if you've tried reasoning with them before, I don't know what you could do to make them understand.