My partner cheated ?

Question

my partner cheated on me and kicked me off and blamed me for it we have to kids i still lover her so much and want her back but she saya she dont no what she wants

Answer 1

Women can do that, they can cheat and make you pay alimony and child support for kids that SHE wanted.  It sucks!

Answer 2

it's over take care of the kids.

Answer 3

Tough one when soeone cheats.

It take two to tango.  So why did she cheat?

Find the answer to that and you will know whether to move on or not.

I don't believe the saying "once a cheater always a cheater".

There was something wrong to make her do this.

Answer 4

its over dude.

move on.

just make sure the kidz are ok.

Answer 5

She's gone, bye bye. Better make some new plans for your life.

Answer 6

Not always once a cheater always a cheater but in my case it was true.If its a drunken,one night stand that he or she is truly ashamed and sorry for then yes it can work . It its a long term thing,then no,it can't. the lying,deceit,everything about an affair just makes it hard to go back and start again.

Take pride in yourself,pick yourself up and forget about her,shes not worth it!!! Its tough,especially as you have kids but remember,she cheated,not you. Good luck

Answer 7

this relaitonship can not be the same as before, because you will have confidence and trust issues. you both need to decide about kids' future. you will hurt so much, i can guess..there was nothing wrong with you, but she shoudl have concentrate on your relaitonships rather than looking for adventures. the relaitonships are meaningfull when both parties effort and love eachother, you know. i dont kow what to say, i feel really sorry, you will have a difficult period. dont stay alone, talk to some friends, try to go out, try to calm your midn down, but pain will stay there for a while, it is normal. you will heal one day.    

Answer 8

Want a good word of advice matthew, you may forgive, but you will NEVER forget !!!  For as long as your relationship lasts that act will worm its way back up from deep in your mind every now and then.

A lasting relationship is all about trust. When someone cheats that trust is gone. It is not just the s*x act its-self it is also all the lies, prevarications and cover ups that went with it.

I truly believe that as soon as one person in a partnership cheats, the relationship is dead. there is no going back to the way it was. usually if someone cheats once, they will do it again.

Answer 9

sorry, it sucks, move on, you WILL get over her, kids or not, they'll be fine. Be a good father, then go find a woman who knows what the word faithful means

Answer 10

If you are really serious about wanting her back, it is absolutely essential for you go to couples therapy.  A trained professional will help you guys work through why she cheated, help her figure out what she wants, and help you forgive her and trust her again.  Also, if you both are no longer right for each other, the counselor can help you figure that out too.  All of these things are extremely difficult to deal with on your own.  A counselor is a neutral third party to help you work through all of these issues.  Good luck with whatever you decide!

Answer 11

That is so sad.You have to realise that if she doesn't love you anymore,you'll have to let her go. It is very difficult to come back from this situation. Make sure that the kids come first in all you choices.Good luck my brother.

Answer 12

when will you people ever learn - once a cheater, always a cheater.. dont take her back, dont want her back.. its pointless!!!

Answer 13

I think it's over for now, maybe you should try and move on from all of it.  Sorry

Answer 14

You are in the twilight zone. There is no reason or rhyme as to why these things happen or why they do what they do. A relationship is based on mutual feelings and if it isn't mutual, it just doesn't work. It's like a death with the exact same emotions and it affects the whole family. It's extremely hard to have trust in the one who cheated if you get back together. Lay in bed and think about the big picture. Make your life as happy and satisifying as possible and let her go on with her life. Best wishes in your in your decision.