My partners family are hurtful to me and my partner.What can i do?

Question

I have been with my partner for many years now and we go to his parents places every week. Every time we go his brothers and parents are rude to each other and to us! they make rude comments about what we eat and always make rude comments about us being fat(but were not even overweight)! they also make comments about how messy our home is, that we cant cook well, and many other things! it really hurts my feelings! i have tried to just laugh it off, but then they get nastier! i have tried saying to them that they have hurt my feelings but they don't stop and find it funny! my partner sticks up for me occasionally but it doesn't help! i always leave feeling hurt and bad about my self image! What can i do?

Answer 1

tell your partner you would like to do something different this year because your self esteem is in jeopardy words do hurt child abuse using words can be devastating so why should it be different for adults?seek counseling if you husband dose not seem to relate after all he was raised with it .Explain to him you were not and would like to compromise  to some level here remember cutting off his family totally is wrong compromise

Answer 2

Just tell em to f*ck off and that you two are happy the way you guys are, and find each other attractive and that's all that matter, and you don't need their opinions and you feel sorry that their lives are so boring and incomplete they nothing else to do but make fun of everyone else. Tell them to get a life.

Jenxx

Answer 3

Move... it's the time tested method.

Answer 4

I would try to talk to them again the both of you and if it doesn't work again I would stay away until they respect you and him. You don't deserve to be treat this way. If they miss you they will change and if they don't change it's their loss you don't need that. I wouldn't feel bad either. Good Luck!

Answer 5

Ignore them and don't visit them anymore, if they do that in front of you i don't want hear what they say behind your back, they need to worry about their life. Don't pay attention to stupid people.