My personality problems?

Question

Ok, well... I'm a sophomore in high school and I'm actually switching schools. I've never had any friends because I'm too shy. People are always like "oh, you're so nice, but you should talk more!" and stuff. I'm not an outcast, I can get along with any of the girls in my grade just fine despite the one problem I have -- my personality is not developed. Like, when I meet someone I don't really know what to say. I want to change the way it is, I hate it right now. I've tried watching people's reactions and personalities and trying to make myself like that but it doesn't work. How can I develop a true personality for myself? I don't want to be the girl with no real friends at this school. I want to be the girl that's known for something -- for having a bubbly personality.

Answer 1

Okay my advice is just go for it. When you get to your new school, don't plan on what your going to do and say. It never turns out the way you expect it too. If you have an hobbies or interests try finding people with those same interests. Join a sports team you think looks fun. Or the drama club. Just let the true you shine, don't hold back. Say what you mean, and listen to what others have to say. Contribute when you have something to say. You'll be fine.  

Answer 2

You can't have a bubbly personality if you don't have a bubbly personality. If you imitate someone who is outgoing, it is not the real you, you are just faking a personality. How to develop yourself socially? well, it's different for everyone but I'd start with forming well thoughtout opinions (to understand yourself better and later to used in conversations) - what do you like, what are your interests, what are your favorite bands, what is your aspiration in life, what is your dream career. Also be involved in school clubs and groups you like, you will have an instant "in" with your fellow members.

Try to start a conversation with someone new by telling them something you just observed or something amusing. Or you can start with questions about the person - people love to talk about themselves. Try to find things in common - not hard for club members (A particular sport, actor, hobby) and after you are comfortable with a person, ask them to go see a movie (you don't need to talk too much) , go swimming etc and then later dinner (more talky) when you become sufficiently comfortable.

Well, the above are just some suggestions off the top of my head. Hope you will find yourself but don't try to conform to a personality because in the end it will be very tiring.