My friend and I have been "best friends" for 5 years. She and I have had differences, (some serious ones) but have worked through them. Regardless, I don't feel like our friendship is as strong as it used to be.
In the meantime, I have developed a new friendship, which I cherish very much. She and I seem to have much more in common, and currently spend a lot of time together. I am very seriously considering asking her to be my maid of honor.
I would like "friend 2" to be my MOH, but I still want "friend 1" to be a bridesmaid.
I don't know how to ask "friend 1" to be a bridesmaid, and let her down that she won't be MOH. I worry if she would stand in the wedding at all... I worry that if she accepts bridesmaid there will still be "unspoken" issues and resentment. I want a dram-free wedding. I know "friend 1" assumes she will be MOH.
Side Note-Friend 1 got married in a court house w/o telling me, while we were planning her wedding. I found out through the newspaper.
What should I do?
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