My "friend" wants me to sleep with her boyfriend?

Question

I have been best friends with a girl since kindergarten. We are both 22 now, so we have been friends for 17 yrs. This friend has been living with a 40 year old man for 2 years(since the death of her mother) Recently, she called me to tell me that she showed this guy pictures of me and he thinks I am hot and wants to have s*x with me. My friend is all about it and even said, “Please do this for me. He likes brunettes with dark skin and I’m just the opposite. Please. It will keep him around.” I told her I could not do that and then asked to speak to her “bf”. I told him that I wanted no part in this and that if he doesn’t care enough about my friend, he should not be allowing her to live with him. He said that he feels sorry for her because her mother died. My friend got mad at me and said that the reason I am not going to have s*x with her “bf” is because of my controlling fiancé. I told her to call me when she gets her **** together. I felt that I had no choice but to stop communicating with her. Do you think I did the right thing? Any advice for the future?

Answer 1

That is twisted and i think you did the right thing.  Why would she be with a guy who wants to sleep with her friends and she is okay with it?!?!  also you have a fiance!  what the heck, why would you say yes?!? i think you did the right thing by putting that guy in his place and telling him what an *** he is and how he doesnt care for your friend.  Even though she is mad at you now, she will eventually realize that you did the right thing because you care for her. good luck

Answer 2

LMAO that shouldn't even be a question who the fawk would do that. Forget that person I am not going to even say that "person" is your friend because friends don't do that. Obviously you did the right thing.

Answer 3

you're right

she's wrong

I'm guessing she's a little upset and doesn't want to talk to you

you can be a friend and console her,

or you can be a friend and give her time to let her get her **** together.

Answer 4

EW, that's messed up!

You did the right thing!!! You have a  fiancé too.

If your "friend" wants to talk to you again, tell her she needs help and needs to get herself together (stop depending on her "bf").

Answer 5

you did the right thing. you go girl!

Answer 6

You definitely did the right thing. It's too bad that she's too insecure about herself to stick around with such a jerk! How does she even put up with that?! And how does she turn the story around to say that *you* have a controlling fiance? I'm amazed she even asked you to sleep with her "bf."  

Answer 7

You acted very maturely and in the RIGHT way.  Your friend will thank you for this later, and if she doesn't - well, you don't need a psycho friend like her anyway..

Answer 8

stay away from them both...creepers

Answer 9

you shouldn'tt have s*x some you don't even no.. and you friend should need you to have s*x with some one just becauses she doesn't fit in to his category...

Answer 10

Your friend has serious issues and Im glad you said no and if she never calls you then oh well. Since when do friends ask their other friends to sleep with their bf? She is obviously insecure thinking that by you sleepoing with him that it will make him stay with her. Well since he didnt get it from you then he will get it from some other brunette with brown skin. Your friend should dumb that loser boyfriend of hers and find a real guy who doesnt want to sleep around.You did the right thing by breaking off communication.  

Answer 11

she is creepy.

well done Amanda

Answer 12

You handled the situation perfectly.  Obviously your friends boyfriend is a controlling jerk and is really putting the pressure on her.  I hope she realizes what a loser he is and gets out of that situation.  Nothing more you can do until then...

Answer 13

If you aren't comfortable then yes, you did the right thing.

However you might be wrong about their motives. Some people are o.k. with things like that. Find them exciting and stimulating.

Answer 14

you did the right thing forget about her until that weird day you get a phone call from a used to be best friend apoligizeing for her being so neive and have a happy maggaige with your fiance

Answer 15

Whoa, twisted. Your "friend" sounds a little confused about life and what's appropriate. Not to mention she's hanging around somebody who is almost 20 years older than her, that's just messed up to be having that kind of relationship at that age. Also, why does she expect you to s**t around with her boyfriend and cheat on your fiance. You'd destroy everything if you made any moves. For one, it's gross, and for two, it's just wrong, in like every possible way! I'd consider permanently ending the friendship with her because she will just drag you down, she sounds very selfish, and it's just a good thing that you have common sense left..Don't know what happened to her's but whatever, my advice is to never s**t around, it will never lead to a good thing. Stick by your fiance.

Answer 16

Yes you did the right thing i mean no friend should ask there best friend to have s*x with someone

Answer 17

Yes, you are right.  She needs to get her *&^% together.....good call.  

Answer 18

Of course you did. Your friend is in trouble though. Ask her if she needs help finding a place of her own. She needs to lose the creep.