My rights as a pregnant woman?

Question

ok so im 3 months pregnant and i dont want the father to take control over what i can and cant do as far as my baby. i dont beileve in abortion at all, BUT isnt that my right to make that choice?

do i have to carry this child can i give it up for adoption. im ready to take care of it and i will. but i need to know can he take me to court if i say i wanna put it up for adoption or abortion?

if i wanted to raise my baby myself legally does he have to be in my life as well as the child. i have somebody who is more of a family person then him and this person will help me and the baby out where my babys father cant even support himself.

all i want is to do it myself but i dont want him to be like well u need to get tested n then im taking you to court so u cant do that.

basically he refuses to give me my rights as a female to make this choice. when the whole almost 2yrs we were together i just found out hes been cheating on me with other ppl. so hes never really been there for me. so like hes gonna be there for my baby.

Answer 1

as the father he has rights over the baby. no he cannot take away your right for abortion, that is solely your choice. as for adoption he has to give his okay. if you want to give the baby up for adoption he has the option to take over custody of the child. he has to sign away his parental rights too to make an adoption legal. if you want to keep the baby he will have rights too. he can petition the court for visitation rights if you try to keep the baby away from him. legally he has a claim to that child and if you try to keep the baby from him you might have to go through a lengthy court process if he decides to take it that far. he does not have to be involved in your life but the baby is half his and he has the right as the father to be in his/her life and legally he will be able to fight to be in that child's life if you try to keep him out.  

Answer 2

no he cant take you to court, to h**l with him hes not good enough to meet your baby

Answer 3

Ok. First of all, there is nothing in the world that anyone can make you do as far as abortion or adoption.  You can be a mother is you choose to.  And if you want to, you should. But first think about a few things:

1. Are you willing to be a mom without him. If he died tomorrow, would you still want his child? Also, look at the flip side, if he decided tomorrow that he wants to share custody (he takes the weekends etc) would you still want to raise this baby?

2.  Are you financiallyy able to raise a baby? Are you mature enough to do so? And maybe most importantly, do you have a good support system? Does your mom support you and will she help you? Or are you going to be on your own, trying to have a job and raise a baby by yourself?

3. When you picture yourself as a mother what do you see? Is it just you dressing up a baby and trying on new clothes? or can you see 2 years down the line, teaching discipline and reading bed time books?

Are you prepared to financially and emotionally support another human being for 18 years?  This is important, if the answers were yes, than you know what you could do.

Forget about the guy, concentrate on the baby. The guy will either step up and be a dad and not just a sperm donor, or he won't. There is nothing else that he could do.

Answer 4

Why'd you have a baby with him if you didn't want him to be the father or for him to have any rights?

I think it's kinda S****y when women don't give the baby's dad any say in the matter. I mean, I realise he may be an irresponsible guy,  but then how are you much better for having his kid? At least let the guy have an input, and grant visitation rights if you keep it.

What if it was the other way around and men were the ones pregnant and he decided you couldn't even help raise your child?

Answer 5

Yes it's your choice to have an abortion. But I'd think he has say in whether the baby is adopted or not, because he's the biological father and in order for the baby to be adopted by someone else, he has to consent to that. If you wanted to raise the baby without him in your life or your child's, you's probably have to prove he's an unfit parent. But if you can't, it's his right to see his child. But it is your decision as a mother whether you want to fight him on custody. If he really is a bad guy, then I would tell the courts that and take him to court.

Answer 6

everything is up to you. you cannot give the baby up for adoption or make his stay out of the babies life unless he signs his parental rights over. the best you can do is get a restraining order. at least thats how it is in texas.

Answer 7

i dont think he can take u to court but i do know that it is ur choice if u want to make the decision for ur baby and if ur ready to take care of the baby that is ur choice he cant do anything about that  

Answer 8

You can get an abortion without the fathers permission yes, you have to have his agreement to put the baby up for adoption because he has fathers rights too once the baby is born.  He can fight you if you try to put the baby up for adoption and in some cases the men have won full custody like that too because the courts view is if you don't want the baby then you should give the father a chance if they are fit to raise the baby.  He has every legal right to fight for visitations with the baby even from birth.    So while you are pregnant you have the rights, once the baby is born he has rights too.  

Answer 9

If you two aren't married, you actually don't even have to have his name on the birth certificate. Legally you do NOT have to have him in your life, and if you don't want him to you don't even have to make him pay for child support.

However, if he wants to see his child and it has been proven that it is his child, he has the right to see/be/play with that kid.

You as a pregnant woman have any right to yourself. You have the right to make the best decision for you and what's right for your baby. If you believe he can harm you or the baby you also have the right to have sole custody over your child.

Answer 10

He has just as much right to the baby as you do.  Unfortunately.

What to do?

Get a lawyer.  You need him to voluntarily sign over his parental rights.  This is the easiest, cheapest, most permanent way of getting rid of him.

Lawyers will draw up the papers and can usually arrange for him to sign them.

If he refuses, go to court.  

If he wants to see the baby, he has to pay child support.  Usually, this has losers running for their lives.

Whoever signs the birth certificate as the father, is considered, legally the father.  DNA tests aside, if you want the other guy to be the daddy, have him sign.  It won't get the other guy out of your life, but it'll offer the baby more protection.

See a lawyer.

Family court usually offers them free, or knows where to find them free or low cost.

Good luck.

Congrats on the baby.

Answer 11

Your baby's father DOES have rights to his child! I'm sure you could have an abortion without consulting him, but adoption is likely another story altogether.

My brother went through a similar battle.. his girlfriend was pregnant, but didn't want to involve him since they broke up during the pregnancy. He was able to get a court order for paternity testing, and has also earned full visitation rights with his daughter.

Answer 12

you have all the rights to your baby....the father has no rights until he signs the birth certificate and still you have the rights even if you had 100% custody of the baby