My roommate wants us to be a family. Help!?

Question

I'm in my late 20s, so is my roommate. I'm a guy, she's a girl. I have a 10 y/o son, she has a 4 y/o daughter. We moved in together more for convenience than anything---she needed a roommate to help with bills, I needed a place for me and my son. We were never a couple, I've never had any romantic interest in her, s*x has never been part of the situation. She told me she wants us to live as a normal mom-dad-kids family! I'm not even dating this girl, but she wants us to be a family? Isn't that....odd? I don't want to loose a friend, but I do NOT want that kind of relationship with this girl, nor do I want to be her "baby daddy". Should I just grab my son and run or try to work things out?

Answer 1

you have to sit and talk with her. tell her that you care for her very much, but more like a sister. if she doesn't understand then you will have to move on, for the sake of the children.

Answer 2

run.  

Answer 3

i would say, that you should tell her how you feel. your not interested in that kinda relationship right now. and its best to stay friends.

Answer 4

Hm. Well buddy, begging to LIVE with her but only wanting to be friends was sort of a mistake. :S

What you need to do is go confront her. If you don't set boundry lines NOW, then she'll never get the picture.

good luck with that...

Answer 5

tell her how you feel,you see her as a friend, if it gets awkward after that then start looking for your own place.  

Answer 6

say okay if dosent work out become friends again

Answer 7

She wants to act out her fantasy with you because it's convenient. She is feeling the urge to start a normal family life and settle down and the set up is right in front of her.

I wouldn't stay in this situation. It doesn't sound you can or want to offer what she wants in a relationship. Do not change your life and behavior to please someone else, it never works out.