My says that I ruined her life?

Question

She's always saying that I ruined her life, she even laughs about it now, she doesnt care about my feelings, it makes me really sad. I went out a few hours a couple a days ago, and she gott annoyed when i came home and wished that i would be out ofter and longer, but i dont have any friends, what am i supposed to do? i hike sometimes or go to the record store and the library, thats all.

She always mention it when i start to talk to much, about how better her life used to be. What the h**l am i supposed to do? get out of her life? she acts like im doing really bad stuff. She complains about me talking to much, thats all, she stops answering me when she doesnt want to her me talk anymore and then she screams at me.

How can i make her life easier? im sick of feeling completely useless.

She always ruins my day when she does this and i was in a good mood right now but she ruined it.

Answer 1

Tell her you are going to live with your Dad or another relative and also tell her "if her life was better without you,then  she shouldn't have been STUPID and gotten pregnant".Tell her it is HER fault she is is unhappy not yours, you did not ask to be born.This will get her blood pressure up a bit.

Answer 2

tell her how you feel. but be calm and mature about it. make sure she LISTENS. she has issues. there's nothing wrong with you, she has the problem. she needs therapy or something. it's not your fault you were born. you couldn't help that. but you were, and now you have to live your life. but take care of the problem with your mother, and you'll be happier. ask her why she doesn't seem to love you. she'll tell you. but you tell her this:

"well, mom, it doesn't matter how wonderful your life was before me, because I AM HERE. I Am your CHILD. and that will NEVER change. mom, you have to accept that. stop wishing for something that will never happen. you say that your life was better, that i ruined your life, blah blah blah, but have you EVER thought about how i felt? i'm a person, mom, i feel, i love, i hurt inside. you hurt me. "

continue to tell her how you feel, and when she screams and tells you to be quiet, continue to calmy and maturely tell her how you feel, and then aske her what she thinks.

i suggest getting therapy fot the both of you, together.

ignoring the problem will not make it go away. it's there. deal with it.

maybe you should go live with a relative, or a friend. it may be better that way.

maybe you should call the Tyra show or Montel(I'm serious here) and ask them to help you. they've helped loads of people. maybe they can help you.

http://montelshow.com/mail/

there's montel. you can mail tyra by going to tyrashow.com

God bless you and i hope your problems are solved

Answer 3

Sorry that your feeling this way. I think you should sit down with her and have a heart to heart chat about how your feeling when she says that and if that doesn't work I suggest talking to your relatives about and see what they say or your teachers or even if your at your last straw family counselling and also try to make friends by joining clubs or actives or something.

Good Luck x

Answer 4

if I heard someone say that to their child in my company I would SLAP her HARD!!

I get SO angry when parents blame their children for their problems!!

It sickens me.

Answer 5

This is bad. Your mother has some issues that are not your fault but she is putting the blame on you. Do you have a dad or other relative that you can go to? If not you need to seek a counselor pastor or someone. You do not need to be in this situation.

Answer 6

She's trying her damndest to ruin your life, but don't let her. She obviously has serious emotional problems (google Borderline Personality Disorder) and you are the recipient of all her dysfunctional behavior. She is actually talking about HERSELF because her impairment prevents her from relating to anyone else.