My self and my partner have been together from December and everything between us has happened really fast, i

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moved in with him after 2 months we booked our holiday at the same time.

We get on amazingly and things have always been good between us apart from the fact if i talked about my past, things that had happened, just stories and so on. It caused him to take the huff. Anyway whilst on holiday we sat down and spoke about it more and more of my past was reveled, i had been permiscous a lot before meeting him, I suffered from clinicl depression and was taking class A drugs regular along with antidepressents, about 6 months prior to meeting him i had gotton over the depression i was suffering and i had stopped taking drugs and partying basically i got myself together. I then met him and felt ihad to be honest. He can't handle my past, and if we go to where i come from and where i lived until i moved in with him he gets really annoyed, we have a week off huff and nastiness, he says he needs time to let sink in and it will be okay, my question is I can't change what has gone before but i have changed. Help he says he wants it to work but sometimes espically if we are going through there then he can't get it out of this head and he hates it. Any sugguestions

Answer 1

It is quite normal for your boyfriend to feel that way. However, it's just a bit extreme that he gets so mad about it. Whenever I speak about my past, or my bf talks about his past, there's that splinter inside us that keeps poking and it's just very uncomfortable. Perhaps you just work towards the future and try not to remind him of your past. Sometimes it may slip, but just hold back and try to change the subject. At least he understands that it's a past, and he'll only need time for it to sink...

Answer 2

Excepting you for who you and the road you took may not have been the best journey but it did eventually lead you to him and you said you have honestly changed and have your life is in order again. I don't think it helps your relationship if  he wants to just pick the bits of your life he agrees with. Maybe with the relationship moved too fast you haven't had time to really get to know each other. The problem seems to stem from him you cant change your past all he can do is except you for who you are and move on or the problem will keep coming back every argument.

Best of Luck don't take a step backwards you have come a long way and there is always the chance that he may not be the right man for you.