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My self confidence is at an all time low...?

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well its not that its that low , i just feel like i should be a little more confident , a little more outgoing , and people should be a little more attracted to me ...i know this sounds real silly but anyone have any answers on how to help me be more confident or act more confidennnt! thank you!

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  1. Self-confidence is something that all of us need if we have to do well in life. It gives us the courage to face the most difficult of situations, something which cannot be said of people who lack self-confidence. They often break down in front of challenges.

    The question, however, is how do you achieve self-confidence? You can do so if you define your tasks, and priorities, correctly. You then need to ask yourself as to how you can accomplish these tasks. A good strategy is to break your goals into smaller tasks. This makes the main task seem less daunting. You then need to pat yourself every time you reach a milestone. This increases your self-confidence, and makes it easy for you to achieve your goals.

    You also need to look at the image that you have of yourself. If you dont have a good image of yourself, and are always running yourself down, then your chances of being successful are minimal. Your self image or what you believe about yourself can be hurt easily if you blame yourself for any setback in your life like a business failure, loss of a job or a divorce. So, avoid self-flagellation. It feeds on your negative thoughts, and can easily become a monster. You need to write off your failures, and plan for new challenges. This is a positive approach to adopt, and can shore up your shaky self-confidence.

    Those who are close to you play an important role in shaping your self-confidence. If they happen to critical or negative, they will have a negative impact on your self-confidence. Your priority should be to distance yourself from such people, and find friends and supporters who are imbued with a positive outlook. Without your knowing, they will add to your self-confidence.

    Another issue that matters is your reaction to the events in your life. You should consider yourself a unique person who has his own special place in the world. This will lead to a development of positive attitudes, beliefs and values, qualities that can give you the self-confidence to succeed against all odds. However, there is an inherent danger in such a world-view. You may become too over-confident, and stop listening to what the others say. Dont allow this to happen. Listen to all criticism, filter out the points that can make you a better individual; junk the rest. This constant course correction will make you a better individual.

    At the same time, you need to monitor your internal dialogue. You must talk yourself into believing that you can take up any reasonable assignment. This will drive away negative attitudes and beliefs, and add to your self-confidence..

    In fact, the picture you have of yourself needs constant monitoring and care. You cannot afford to let it take care of itself. Your self-confidence, happiness and success depends on it. You need to guard against selling yourself short. Dont underestimate yourself and prevent feelings of inferiority from creeping in. Aim high and feel that you are capable of achieving anything you choose. Write down how you would like to see yourself five or ten years from now.

    Make a list of your strong points, the things you do well and the compliments you receive. Write down a few of the things about yourself, which you think need improvement. Think of yourself as a self-confident person and act as if you are very self-confident, even if you dont feel that way. Try to keep negative attitudes and beliefs away from yourself and maintain a safe distance from negative and destructive people.

    If you take responsibility for your life and practice these methods regularly, your self-confidence will rise. Whats more, it will remain high.

    Kevin


  2. I disagree.. you should try to act confident. Telling yourself positive things can help you actually believe it. I am a proponent of self-affirmations and telling yourself you are beautiful, worthwhile, smart, etc. everyday does have an effect. Look yourself in the mirror and focus on great aspects of yourself. even if it is just one thing you do well. dont focus on the negatives. if others arent attracted, it is there loss. but others can aslo see when someone isnt confident. you need to make eye contact and speak clearly when talking to others.

  3. Google a short piece called Desiderata. It has all the answers you need to the issues you have raised. Best wishes. UK

  4. People can give there thoughts opinions and suggestions but its only you who can personally become confident.

    You shouldn't try to ACT confident instead try and look deeper into yourself. Focus on the good things about yourself if a flaw comes to mind just think well every ones got them.

    The more you accept yourself and live life to the best you possibly can the more confidence will grow on you.

    Another key factor is laughing sounds stupid huh but if your out and about hanging with friends joking around and laughing it shows some dal of confidence..

    Would you be promted to go talk to some girl all by herself quiet and sad looking

    Or some girl laughing and smiling?

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