My sis in law keeps dropping her kids off at my house?

Question

My sis in law was in a bitter divorce and her husband has custody of both of her boys, 8yrs and 14yrs. She picks up one or both of her boys then drops them off at my house. Her mother is currently staying at my home for vacation, so instead of asking me if her kids to stay over, she just tells my mother in law. I have 4 kids at home with me and have to feed them, so of course i have to feed her kids when they are here too. But it just makes me angry that she drops them off here, when she has her own house (she's living with her new bf that only one of her son's knows about). Sometimes I can't go out on the weekends b/c that would mean me taking my kids plus her 2 kids. My mother in law is leaving real soon, in days. If my sis in law keeps dropping her kids off my house on weekends, do i have a right to be upset?

Answer 1

Oh, yeah. You have a right to be upset. You gonna have to have a talk with old sis-in-law. She is using you so she doesn't have to own up to her own responsibilities. You just need to have a heart to heart and tell her you can't deal with 6 children and you and your children have things to do so after mil leaves it's over unless she makes specific plans with you for the occasional visit with the cousins.

Answer 2

Of course you have the right to get upset!  Have you told her ex-husband about this?   You should talk to her about it. Does she come in when she drops them off? You could tell her that they aren't staying there.

Answer 3

yes..of course you have a right to be upset!. She is clearly taking advantage. If she is your sis in law..I gather it means your husband is her brother?..Or someone else in your family? That is the person that needs to have a word with her. And hey..if not..you have EVERY right to tell her you are not feeling comfortable with how she is dropping her kids off at all the time. You need your privacy..it is alot to expect you feed her kids..and an inconvenience to you. She needs to get her back back into her own home..their home.

Answer 4

Move and don't leave a forwarding address.

Answer 5

No you don't have the right to be upset...if you don't like having the kids in her home they YOU need to speak up.  If you don't then you have no reason to be upset.  Grow a backbone and tell your sister in law that your mother in law is a GUEST in YOUR home and that she needs to ask YOU if she can drop her children off there.  Tell her to hire a babysitter until your mother in law leaves YOUR home.

Answer 6

what happens when you don't open the door?  be an adult and have this conversation with the parties concerned.

Answer 7

Of course you do.

Its not right of her to drop them of without asking you.

Its your house.

They are not your kids, your not their mom, why do you need to take care of them?

Its your spare time! You should be free to do whatever you want with your kids.

Next time she comes over you tell her that, this is the last time she is dropping them off without your permission. Its not your mother in laws place-its yours. If she doesn't ask you before, theyre not coming over. And she can complain all she wants, your sick of her taking advantage of you. Shes lucky your not charging her for all the extra expenses you had to pay out for those kids.

She needs to get her head out of her *** and spend some time with her own children. Her husband has custody and when its her time she doesnt even play with them? What kind of mother ditches her sons for a boyfriend?

Answer 8

   What would happen if you asked your sister in law to pay for the food and baby sitting services?   Maybe you should just tell her that you have had enough of her impositions.