My sis in law wants to adopt my second child what will be my right as biological parent on the child?

Question

i am 6 months pregnant and due in may and have a3.5 year old male child who is first born ... my sis in law has 3 daughters and wants to adopt my baby if it is a boy

Answer 1

If she wants to adopt only if its a boy, it sounds like you should maybe think this one over a bit.  She sounds flakey.

Answer 2

Rights to....what?  Visitation?  You have to write up and agree to a continuing contact agreement, which spells out the contact you will and will not have over the years.  This can be enforced in court in many states.  But you will not be your child's day to day parent, they will.  That's what adoption is.  It is full and permanent parenting.  They will be totally responsible for medical care, safety, housing, education, moral guidance, etc., etc.  So make sure you are comfortable with them making all the decisions and providing all the care for your child before you ask them to be adoptive parents.

Answer 3

you will be there aunt and nothing else. YOu have no rights once the baby is adopted.  You can do an open adoption but that is not eve granteed as i have learned on here.

Answer 4

If she adopts the child and you give up your rights, you don't have any rights.  She may permit you to see the child, but she is the parent and you gave up your rights.

Answer 5

So if it's a beautiful baby girl, she's going to say **** it and not take her?  What kind of a mom would that be?  Why on earth don't you want your own baby??

Answer 6

you can go to the courts and hand over physical custody but not legal custody if thats what you want to do and she agrees with it...

Answer 7

If you allow her to adopt the child you will have NO rights.  You give up any and ALL rights to your child before the adoption is completed.

Answer 8

No rights.  Don't do this to your newborn or your firstborn, please

Gosh, what if it's a girl

I feel so sorry for those kiddies

Answer 9

So if it's a boy she wants it what about a girl are you going to keep it? You would have no rights to this child if you give it up all you will be is a Aunt

Answer 10

Tell your sister-in-law to quit being so selfish. For one thing it is YOUR child and not hers. If she has three daughters she should love them unconditionally.

Where does she get off even suggesting such an arrangement. Your husband needs to set his sister straight. After all it's HIS too and he has just as much say so in the matter as you do. Your sister-in-law needs to butt out of your womb.

Answer 11

Once she adopts the baby, you have no rights whatsoever.  Most courts will not even enforce contracts in open adoptions.  You have to wonder about her motives - if it's a girl, she doesn't want her?

Answer 12

If you legal place your child for adoption and your sister in law and brother (or brother in law) adopt the child, you will have no rights to the child as you will have given those up in order to place it for adoption.  Do you feel a need to put this baby up for adoption?  If so doing a kinship adoption is fine. That said I do have concerns that your sister in law  would only want this baby if it’s a boy.

Also the baby's biological father  would also have to agree and give his rights up as well.

Answer 13

Why on earth would you give your child away against your will???  If your husband is pressuring you, maybe it's time to contact a lawyer - do NOT agree to this!!!!  

Your family set up is warped and abusive towards you.  You need to get OUT of this situation and take your children with you.

Children are not objects to be given away on a whim.

If you agree to this you will have NO LEGAL rights over this child and NO visiation or anything.

Answer 14

She can't unless a judge takes your parental rights.

Answer 15

Would you be able to give up your child and watch someone close to you bring them up and not being able to do anything you will have no rights once you give him up for adoption, this could cause a few family rows if you want to spend time with the child or want him back ur sis willl be to attached. make sure you think it through

Answer 16

She doesn't have the right to take your child from you.  If you want to keep your baby no matter what the s*x of your child is, you have the full right.  Tell  her to mind her own business.

Answer 17

I'm curious, you don't mention if you ever asked your SIL to adopt your child.

For her to offer out of the blue is incredibly rude, or if you asked her to and if she is only interested if the child is a boy, that is wrong.

Either way I would suggest finding programs that will help you keep you child, because once you give them up you have no rights.

You SIL will have no obligation to include you in the childs' life even if you have an open adoption

Answer 18

are you giving your baby in adoption is that why she wants your baby if you are not giving your baby in adoption she cant do squat unless you are unfit to be a mother and you give her some kind of rights to your baby

Answer 19

if u wnt her to adopt ur child then she can adopt it but y does she wnt a boy? does she have all girls? so if u wnt her to have it she can soo........YUPP

Answer 20

Do you want her to adopt the baby?

What will happen if the baby is a girl?  

If the adoption is something that you want, also, then you need to contact an adoption lawyer to handle the details.

But if this is something you don't want, or aren't sure about, then you don't have to do this.  By the tone of your question it's not clear if you want to give your baby up or not.

Answer 21

she cant make u