My sister's foster parent won't let us see our sister can you help

Question

My sister is 10 & her foster parents won't let her speak with us (us as in me and my brother but she lets our other iressponsible brother speak with her).

Everytime we call she's busy or she's in the shower or whatever.

To our fault (our as in all of my brothers including myself) we have been absent (actually not calling as frequent) & found out that our sister is suffering from "attachment & abadonment" the pyschiatrist said. So they said we need to call more often and more frequently. So soon as we start they don't want to pick up the phone.

Then my brother who lives in texas scheduled a meeting in Mich.(he had to fly 4 hours all together) to meet up with the psychiatrist, the foster parent, and my lil sister to figure out what's been going on. Come to find out the foster parent sent my sister out of town the same day and she couldn't make the appointment and my brother got heated because she knew about it in advance. What should we/I do? I have reserved my anger but i'm about to boil over. She actually was a friend of the family before our mom died but now since has turned into a real b***h. Meanwhile the irresponsible brother can see her and talk to her.

My brother is getting lawyers involved and i hope he takes custody of her & stop being selfish.

And i already have a bad rep from the pyschitrist for teasing my sister back and fourth in a playful way and finding out she takes it personally. What should i do and what shouldn't i do? If you have bad experiences with foster parents share them to

Answer 1

OK, the reason you can't speak to her is because the foster mother is trying to shield her from your "teasing." Teasing is actually an act that pretends to be in fun but has roots in tremendous hostility. I don't know why you did this to her, but of course she took it personally because you hurt her feelings, which I'm sure you are aware of but might not want to admit. No such thing as teasing "back and forth in a playful way" it's just out and out hostility so you need to work on that and find out why you feel that way and why you did that to her. Your brother may be able to get custody but you need to get counseling to find out why you "tease" your sister so you never do it again.

EDIT: When you ask questions here you will get answers and not all may be to your liking because they will be, for the most part, truthful, whch is something you cannot deal with. You have anger issues and you still do not grasp that teasing is hostile, esp the way you do it, and even after knowing you hurt her feelings you are still trying to defend yourself which says that you value your opinions and your hurtful teasing more than you do your sister's feelings; she is much better off where you cannot hurt her any more and I hope, for her sake, she never has to see or talk to you again. her gain and your loss.

Your sentence below illustrates perfectly why you should never have contact with your sister, now or ever, you're just unfit.

"There are plently of people that pick on & sometimes even beat up their lil siblings to make them tougher. calling someone "booger face" is hardly degrading."

Answer 2

perhaps get some type of social service involved in the area where your sister lived a Department of childhood serverices and tell them this they should help  

Answer 3

I am sorry to hear that. I suggest that you go to a friends house and call them. If they know the number isn't from your house, they should pick up the phone. Get your friend to ask for your sister. Once the phone is given to your sister, you can talk to her and see how she is. Be careful to listen for someone else picking up a phose and listening to your call though

Answer 4

You all sound pretty selfish. This little girl apparently only has one person protecting her, and that's the foster mother. I think you should stop and think about what is best for this little girl. Her mother is dead, apparently her father is not around, her older brothers and sisters allowed her to be put into a foster situation in the first place and now selfishly want to destroy the only safe place she has. Stop thinking about yourselves and your petty hurts and slights and start thinking what is best for this child. Maybe the foster mother is shielding her from you because you confuse and upset your sister every time you bother to contact her. You had to be told that your behavior negatively impacted her life before you bothered. How could you, apparently an adult, have not known that.