My sister's funeral is this Friday..what should i expect??

Question

My sister was my everything, we were very close!! I don't think i have wrapped my head around the fact that my sister is gone! And all the talks,laughs,joking,seeing each-other and everything else will never happen again on this earth! I don't think it's hit me yet? Will it come full circle at the funeral what i've lost? I'm scared that it will cause i been handling her death okay so far and i don't think that will last once friday hits!! I'm really scared what might happen once it does hit me. Please help me out!! Anyone please share your stories, thank you in advance!!

Answer 1

The famous book that helps people understand what is going on is called "On Death and Dying" by Elizabeth (maybe Elisabeth) Kubler-Ross. I may have this wrong, but the first stage may be denial or shock, then anger, then something else - maybe mourning or depression and finally acceptance. Death is such a change that it can't be dealt with all at once.

Amazon has a lot of books for $1 plus $4 shipping. Maybe you should treat yourself to a book on dealing with the loss of a loved one. Your public library should have some books as well and the Internet is a great resource too.

Sorry about all that you have lost.  

Answer 2

I would go to it expecting to cry. That would be totally a normal response to your loss. Take some tissue with you and if there is a time to get up and share, then think of at least one great memory of her and tell about that. It will help you and others during this sad time.

Answer 3

well i didn't loose a sibling but i lost my mom.  i was handling her death pretty well also, i'm also not a very emotional person either.  at the her funeral halfway through the whole thing i started to ball. the truth is there is no way you can't cry at your sister's funeral.  the truth is it still hasn't hit me that my mom is gone it's been three years.  so it might not come to you that your sister is gone for good for awhile because unless you keep hoping that she will come back to you, it won't hit you that she's gone but until you realize that you have lost her and will not get her back then it will hit you. but anyway at the funeral most likely you will cry. you might even cry harder then you've ever cried before.  it all really depends on how close you were to her and it sounds like you were pretty close with your sister so expect tears maybe even a lot.

but from someone who can connect to your story in a way. good luck with handling with her death. i'm really sorry to hear what happened.  best wishes :)

Answer 4

It's different for everyone, but never easy.  My dad's funeral was full of strangers for me so it was kind of like it wasn't real.  I was not close to him.  My great-grandma's funeral was harder because I saw her all the time and really missed her.  I cried through the whole thing.

Don't try to plan anything.  If you feel like crying, cry.  Laugh if the urge hits you (this might sound disrespectful but depending on the service it may be appropriate).  Accept condolences, which will be offered profusely.  Support your parents.

If you're really nervous, knock back a shot of schnapps or something just before, to take the edge off.  Just don't go crazy and start a bad habit.

Answer 5

Firstly I would like to express my deep sympathies for you and your family. I recently lost my aunt to cancer.

At the funeral I thought I would be a rock, but with the gathering and all the people there, I broke down and completely bauled my eyes out. If you plan on saying something, you must write it down beforehand.Otherwise the preacher probably won't let you go up there, because people stumble and stutter and pause for long awkward periods of time. Write down something you feel is respectful of her, but keep it light and warm.

Again, I am deeply sorry for your loss, and my prayers will be with you and your family tonight. Death touches us all in different ways, and I know you will have people there as guidance in this tough time.  

Answer 6

Oh, I'm so sorry for you ! What happened to her ? Please talk to someone about this. You will be in my thoughts, Take Care.

Answer 7

Sorry for your loss... but im sure it will hit you on friday... what can you do once it hits....???... NOTHING...  

Answer 8

Prepare yourself...it wont be easy...it will hit you like a ton a bricks to be honest...pray for peace of mind....It may not even hit you at the funeral, it could be days, weeks, even months later, but one day it will...pray for peace...Peace in when something terrible like this can happen, but you can still sleep at night, and even though your world is turned upside down but your okay...pray for peace and I'll do same for you

Answer 9

That was my sister and I We were only ten months apart when I heard our whole childhood teenage adult life together flashed in front of my eyes. I was real sad and in mourning all that week luckily I didn't have to do any burial preparations. Actually come to think about it, when I heard about her death all my cries seamed tho come out then. I was still really sad at the funeral, I don't really socialize. When people came up to me to hug me I would hug the but I could just accept their sympathies.

Answer 10

my granddad killed himself a year ago i was numb i felt sorrow but never expressed it and then it it me after the funeral i was admittedd in to a ward and tried to kill myself it will hit you hard i'm not going to lie but make sure your next to someone to comfort you talk about how you feel about her passing holding it in is the worst even though it's painful to talk about it's more painful to let it allbuildd up pray for strength and the lord shall gide you though this horrificc time i'm so sorry for what your going though you'll make it though this storm