My sister ALWAYS controls me? [story inside] 10 points for best answer! ?

Question

okay, im really just pissed off right now. she contrlos me for every fcking thing i do. she doesn't do this to her friends, just me.

i go on the computer, she beats me up , and then tells our parents, and they blame it on me. and i was downloading something, and she clicked cancel.

then just yesterday, my friends phoned me and we wanted to go the movies and watch something, but my sis came along, got the other phone, and started annoying my friends and intterupting and said she wanted to go too. while they were talking. i told my mom, and she always thinks my sis is so good, and does every alright. but this time i was getting so mad, so i told my mom again, and then she went to my sis and told her stuff. but she got up the phoen AGAIN and yeah. and now, she has to go to the movies with me and my friends. i feel like such a fricken dork. my sisters only 10 years old. and she can be so annoying.

and another thing, if i get a bag of chips, she says: no you can't, your not allowed! and then she goes to get a bag of chips and we have to "share" eating it.

so please help me, how can i stop her from controling me, if i dont do what she says, she beats me up so badly, and then ilike scream and tell my mom, and my mom tells me not to blame her always.

ITS SO ANNOYING. HOW CAN I STOP THIS?

Answer 1

she is too young,

just tell her lovingly, slowly she will turn ur side.

the more u hate her, the more whe will behave like that.

just be with her and repeatedly train her without hurting her emotions.

she will become ur lovely ones in few days/months,

u should have patience to follow this.

Answer 2

If she controls you then it is because you let her, period.

Answer 3

i have the same problem with my little sister. what i do sometimes is bribe her. ill tell my lil sis that ill let her wear my shirt for school, or ill ill do her hair for school. something along those lines, but never NEVER offer her money. i made that mistake and it was horrible. lol. but i hope i somewhat helped. i wished someone told me things like this when i had the problem.

Answer 4

she is not controlling you she is just being a younger sister that feels ignored by you.

you could help yourself by being nice to her or you can continue to fight ,the choice is yours

Answer 5

Let her get her way for 1 week, don't complain to your mom, but do not talk to any one. Just let her get what she wants. After a week start doing things again, like talking, and complain ONCE if she does something, and if you do not get the response you want from your mom, do the silent treatment again for another week, and keep this going.

Good luck, and AIM me if you need more help.

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Answer 6

There's a certain point at which you have to look after your self...

Your your sister is *totally* s******g with every bodies heads to make you look 'bad' when you don't take her c**p - then fine ....

Violence is *unacceptable* and you can't let yourself be exposed to that. It's hard mentally, VERY STRESSFUL and your sister may 'ramp up' and seriously hurt you

Although your parents seem blind to your little sister, your not. You can try and make a deal with her (and help her grow up) and tell her she'll have far more fun with you and you'll do more stuff with her if she can just act like a grownup, or a sister otherwise you'll just have to exclude her from you life .....

It hurts to say that ...but ... you can't let her beat on you. Letting her 'get away with it' just tells her so can do it again and more. So what if your parents get mad at you. They'll figure it out

I would goto your parents and tell them you can't let your sister hit you anymore because she's getting bigger and it's really starting to hurt you, plus it's a terrible way for here to think it's acceptable to 'interact' with people and she's going to have major problems as an adult.

Let them know your not going to hurt her, but your not going to let her hurt you. Tell them that everytime you just hold her fist or something so she doesn't hurt you she cries and goes running to them ... but she's just getting to big now and she's really starting to hurt you

Even if your parents don't clue in .... you can't let this continue because a:)it will cause MAJOR problems in your sisters later life if she thinks this is 'normal' b:)it's unfair and hard on you and she may seriously hurt you

There's nothing wrong with being the 'blacksheep' for awhile until your parents clue in, as long as they don't (and they shouldn't) hit *YOU* or anything and do anything terrible unfair to you

If they still don't clue in then maybe you have to tell them your thinking about foster care, or moving in with friends,  because your parents are NOT helping you, and you have to do something to get away from your violent sister

Answer 7

I have 2 sisters one older one younger this was always a problem for me one way or another my mom too always defended them that is the #1 problem they blame you they need to start telling the one who is doing it to stop the more your mom and you let her do it the worse it will get and trust me being nice to her is not going to make it better she will just think she has won you need to start hitting back harder do everything to her she is doing to you go with her friends get on the phone when shes on it etc. show her what its like hope this helped good luck  

Answer 8

Sounds like you need to use the "turnabout is fair play" rule.

When her friends call, you need to get on the line and join in the conversation.

When your sister goes out with her friends, you need to tag along and be obnoxious... talk about your sister's booger-picking ways and all that.

When your sister pulls any stunt, turn it around and make her the villain. Make a mess in the kitchen and blame it on your sister.

Learn to tattle on the little bugger.

Start locking the door when you are on the computer.

When she complains, you explain that "what goes around comes around" and "you sow what you reap".  She either needs to leave you alone or get used to having the same treatments applied to her.  

Answer 9

10 year olds are brats, sorry to say. There's not much you can do.

You could try ignoring her.

When your on the computer, tell her to wait her f**king turn. When you get a bag of chips, & she says you can't have them, shrug your shoulders & walk away.

This could also be considered as abuse, tell your parents about it. If you have bruises from her, show them to your parents.

Good luck!.

Answer 10

thats not normal if she tries to beat you up & your parents blame you then both your sister & your parents suck!!! you can not let your sister do this i think that if you show how well you can actually control her than she wouldn't do this. for instance, when i was like ten, my 8 year old sister would always try to annoy me even if i did nothing wrong. like she would call me a stupid all the time in front of whoever just to get me angry so i would get in trouble.

well to stop her i humiliated her so badly that she never treated me bad again. i think it is better i not share that story but anyway it worked.

final solution: do not let your sister use these terrible bratty ways to get you in trouble for things you didnt do.  WHATEVER IT TAKES!!!!!

Answer 11

This, is perfectly normal.

She annoys you, because she wants your attention. She, believe it or not, looks up to you. If you're on the computer, you're obviously not paying her any mind.. so she has to do something to make ya notice her. If you're on the phone.. she strikes again.. seeing a pattern yet?

Easy solution here, is sit down. Talk to her, tell her you love her, and want to try sitting aside time for just you and her, play board games with her.. anything. She'll love it, even if she doesn't say so right away.

Once she sees she too, matters in your life she'll calm down.

Who knows, you might even start thinking she isn't so bad afterall.