My sister and her boyfriend?

Question

My sister and brother recently moved to London to come to school here, and their living with me, and my boyfriend. My sister's sixteen(turning seventeen in a few months), and she's dating a twenty year old for six months now. I'm totally ok with it because I've known him since I moved to London(Seven years ago), and he's a great guy. He sleeps over now and then in our guest room. I always have to check on everybody while they sleep (hard habit to break) The first room I checked was my brothers then my sisters, and she wasn't in there (I flipped) I checked the guest room, and she was sleeping there with her boyfriend. They didn't have s*x I'm pretty sure of that. I trust them both, but it just makes me feel uncomfortable. Should I feel like this?

Answer 1

it is perfectly normal to feel like that. and u should bring it up to her what happened. tell her that u would really appreciate if she slept in her room. tell her its not beacause u  dont trust her its just that u feel more  comfortable if she slept in her room. also if its ok that she sleeps with him let her know she can sleep in the same bed with him but ur trustting her enough to let her do this and that u trust that they wont have s*x in ur house. tell her this and see what happens. god luck

Answer 2

umm you may have to be the hard mom, and tell her while you're under my roof you will not be sleeping in the same room, I have no problem with you guys being together and him sleeping here from time to time but you will not be sharing a bed. Not until she is of age that you're comfortable with. or til she moves out, one of the 2. And if you got to threaten to send her back with your parents or something, where ever she was before she lived with you. and its not really should you feel like this its the fact that you do feel like this, Or you can try the nice approach and tell her she trusts you both but would prefer if they didnt share a bed.

Answer 3

i think it is inappropriate that you are letting him sleep over at your house.  

Answer 4

I totally understand this feeling,my brother just left for college (and ive told him countless number of times to stay away from the S****y ones haha) but the truth is, they are old enough to choose and know the risks. trust she is a smart girl and give her some space. and if they are going to do it, they will fine a way with or without you approving.