My sister asked me to be her Male Maid Of Honor.. ?

Question

my sister is getting married and asked me to be her male(maid) of honor and I was honored that she asked me,,, I am a man and thought that was only for females,, she is 42 and I am 40,,she has always been there for me so I accepted without knowing it will cost me around 1,000 dollars to pull this off,,,money isnt a problem at all and think it will be fun,,, she wants me to do everything a typical maid of honor does like bridal and bathelette party stuff,, also have to go to the bridal shop with her and help her pick a dress for her and her brides maids,,, she told me" Look on the bright side , you will be the only guy at the batherlette party with a bunch of girls,,I said I would wear a tux and match my cubber bun and tie with her dress and she said no I would have to stand out and not look at all like the groom or best men ect,,, she said a full ivory tux like the same color of her dress,,, at least she isnt making me wear female clothes as in a tradition brides maid style(whew),,, I guess my question is what kind of reaction will I get from friends and family on both sides?will you think I will get teased and talked about like is he g*y(I am not by the way but that shouldnt matter) and at the Batchellette party will the girls try to be girls and tese me and try to make me a girl? I am good with fun and games but to be honest I just want to be prepared for whats to come.... What the h**l did I get myself into and is she punishing me or honoring me? I was her pesky little brother all the time trying to hang with her and friends and always in her way doing what brothers do,,,, whats your input,,would love to hear anything about the other side of weddings,,, P.S,,, I was a best man before so I know that side but little from the female side....would other female friend from the brides side not want to go to the two partys just because a man is throwing it and going to be there,,, Sister told me I have to attend it as well as orginize and fund the partys,, I know I have to get p***s things and also a cake that is rated for adults,,,,

who thinks this is weird?

what do you think will happen?

should I go all out?

what should I say no to when she ask's me ? trust me she wont hesitate for anything.

should I stay at the partys when the girls act silly ?

Answer 1

It sounded so much like the movie 'Made Of Honour'. Good Luck !

Answer 2

You really don't have to get adult cakes or anything...it's not like a rule. It depends on what your sister is into. Even though brides want their bridesmaids to plan that bachelorette stuff, they still want input, so ask her what she expects of you. Obviously she can expect you to wear what she asks, so hopefully you're comfortable with it, and again, even there, there's some give and take since you're the only "man of honor" or whatever so it's not like perfect matching is necessary. It sounds like you have an enlightened sister willing to change the rules, her friends are probably like that as well. Try to keep in as much contact with them as possible, they will probably help you.

Answer 3

I'd do it if I were you.  

Answer 4

It's becoming much more common for men to have female friends/family as attendants and for females to have male family/friends as attendants. As long as you're ok with it, I don't see anything wrong with it. Be honored that she wants to ask you. That being said, if you don't feel comfortable participating in the "girly" things, don't. Ask to be included in the groomsmen activities instead. Good luck and congrats to your sister!

Answer 5

I think it sounds fun! You might have to be prepared for people to crack a few jokes or tease you about not wearing a bridesmaid's dress, but it sounds like something you'd like to do. Just agree to do whatever you're personally comfortable with. I don't think it's weird, I think it's sweet that a brother and sister are that close.  

Answer 6

Are you single? I'm sure this her attempt to get you hooked up or to get you to come out of the closet. Nonetheless, I have no advice other than to be yourself and not let a bunch of girls fool you into acting like one of them. Be yourself and have fun.  

Answer 7

Go for it man. I see too many opportunities in this. Maybe you will start a new trend.