My sister doesnt pay attention towards me but she alwayz gives attention to one of my cousin...wht shud i do?

Question

hey m 16 year old female and i have a sister who is 21... since we have come to USA.. she has changed alot ... and doesnt encourage me and pays attention towards me...

whenever i want something from her..she refuses to give (most of the time) or whenever i want to go somewhere.. she does the same thing...

i become sad when she doest these things...

i have one cousin who is really close to my sister... she talks to her every single day on phone, internet etc...

whenever our families go somewhere to gether..my sister and cousin start talking the whole time and sit by each other ...i notice this everytime and loose hopes.....

i have commited some mistakes in the past which hurts her alot..but this doesnt mean that she doesnt pay attention and accuse me...

lemmi tell u guyz my mistake... i have a bf who used to study in our school.. she knows him too but since we commited to each other.. we didnt tell her about this.. and one day she came to know all abt this...

this is how i hurt her in the past ..... is this really a big thing for her to be all change....? what should i do to get her attention and love.. thnkx

Answer 1

It's not at all clear what you did to hurt her -- you mean not telling her you had a bf? Why does she have a right to know that?

At your ages it's natural that you're not close. You can't force someone to pay attention to you. You need to focus on other relationships, so you feel less alone.

Answer 2

Lack of communication is apparently one of the biggest causes of misunderstanding and ill-feeling in families. Have you tried talking to your sister, explaining how you feel and that you are scared of losing her affection? It may help her to understand your point of view and you to understand hers. Were you closer previously? It may just be one of those things that some siblings seem to go through when they drift apart as they first leave home and become adults then grow closer again. Have you talked to your parents about this? They may be able to keep an eye on things.

Hope that helps. Good luck

Answer 3

if it really is about a dumb boy then its pretty silly. how can she let a boy get in the way of sisterhood? if that's not the case and shes just being a big brat, then ignore her back. once she realizes that you ha vent been around, she'll probably come to you. just gotta be patient.