My sister has delivered 2nd girl child. She is upset. How to console her ??

Question

My sister has delivered 2nd girl child. She is upset. How to console her ??

Answer 1

Well what the heck did she think was gonna happen it was either gonna be a girl or a boy. She should be glad her baby came out healthy. Tell her to STOP worrying about herself.

Answer 2

when she bonds with the baby she wont care whats between its legs. This can take a week or so. If she is still upset after a month then she may have post natal depression and needs to see a doctor.

I would compliment the baby heaps. Tel her what a beutiful little girl she has and how much fun her two girls will have together.

Answer 3

Why is there need for consoling?

Tell her what a beautiful daughter she has, and how blessed and lucky she is to have a healthy child.

Many women cant even have children.

Answer 4

dont she doesnt deserve to be consoled...some people would kill for a baby. and she is upset shes had a girl? all i can say is that poor child.

Answer 5

First, is she upset because she has had another girl? Or is she simply overall upset due to hormone changes/missing being pregnant/loss of sleep now with a newborn, etc. If the latter is the case, it is perfectly normal to go through some form of emotional upset, and everyone around her should offer a helping hand and ask her if there is anything they can do to help her so that she can rest, feel comfortable, and to help her with the physical and emotional recovery.

     If she is upset about the child being a female, then instead of thinking about herself or how the family may be upset, what is more important is to remember that you have a newborn child who is COMPLETELY dependent on the parents' she is born to. She should be able to completely trust the mother. If her life is going to be made second-rate in the family because of ANY issue (gender, a disfiguration, mental development problems, etc) then the parents should at least recognize that they are not doing their most important job, and should seek out a home for the child where the parents will COMPLETELY and utterly love and are willing to give their life for 100% of the child, even the parts that other people might think aren't worth it.

     If she or the father or anyone else really wants a male child, there are procedures (although probably expensive) that can be used to help in this. I think maybe it separates which sperm are XX and which are XY, not sure. But the main issue right now is the fate of the baby girl.

Answer 6

Yes right, all babies are blessing. You can also encourage her to have a third baby and to try using planbaby.com method to conceive a baby boy. They claim 90% success rate.

Answer 7

What is she upset about? It's hard to answer. Maybe just be there for her if she wants it, help her out with her kids and around the house.

Answer 8

why is she upset???? u havent cleared. is she upset because she didnt want a second girl and that she wanted a boy. how can anyone reply without knowing the reason? please add the reason why is she upset- because she expected a boy and thats why she is upset or she didnt want a girl absolutely for reasons only old women know...

if the later is the reason she should be ashamed she doesnt have any right to be a mother.hope she takes care of the child and doesnt ignore her needs. ask women who do not have children. i myself had a child after 5 yrs of treatment and my daughter is the only thing me and my hubby want in this world. nothing else. she is a blessing.

Answer 9

tell her a child is a child it doesnt matter what gender it is

Answer 10

Then tell her to give up the baby to a family that cannot have kids and would be blessed with either s*x, as long as it was healthy! Why to people complain about such things?!!!

Answer 11

Why do you have to console her? Why must you publicise to everyone on yahoo how discriminating and insulting and sexist the indian religion actually is?

For everyone who doesnt understand, he needs to console his sister because in India more value is placed on a male child than a girl, and often women undergo abortions as soon as they realise they are pregnant with a girl.

Thanks for exposing how barbaric people can be. Your sister has a beautiful little girl and shes upset because she didnt have a boy? Whats wrong with you! God has given her a girl tell her to be grateful and love her child!

Answer 12

There is nothing wrong with girls!!!  It's a beautiful baby!  If she gets to upset and starts showing signs of past partem you should contact a health care professional and keep an eye on her and baby

Answer 13

take her to doctor to get her tubes tied

Answer 14

Tell her she is being selfish and if she doesn't want her daughters, I will take them!!!

Answer 15

girl babies are cute things to happen nowadays. It's 21st century dear.

tell her but not to try for more. they are expensive indeed.

Answer 16

You ask this because she thinks she needs a son for her husband, correct? Tell her that the man determines the s*x of the child, not the woman. She had nothing really to do with the s*x of the child, her hubby has the XY to contribute, not her.

Answer 17

Really............I love girl child's...........Really iam speaking Girls are only future of this country (if ur in india).......who is the mad fellow who is objecting a girls birth ........... tell him or explain him that his mother is also a girl and his wife, his teacher(guru), if they wont exist then he also wont exist..........Now a days in software field, fachion feild, enggnering, doctors, and now the latest field real estate ........in every field you take ..........only girl are there in more number ........and they are the definetly future of india......iam married  and i expected a girl child but god had given me boy of course iam ok with that but if there was  girl then i would be more blessed by god....

now iam trying for second child ........i hope ......she could be a girl ..bye

best of luck and dont be depressed ..........thing's will change according to time........bye

Answer 18

I agree with amanda!

Answer 19

Tell me how much does your sister appreciate you as a sister??ask her what you mean to her??if you have brothers ask her what life would have been like if she was the only girl with brothers,Sisters can be the most wonderful friends in the world.At the end of the day they will always love you.girls need sisters in their life I'm sure if the older child was old enough to realise what bringing another lil sister into this world really meant she would be kissing her mothers feet!!!!

Answer 20

tell her to get over it, all babies are blessings. there are some people out there who cant have children.

Answer 21

Is the baby unhealthy, is that why she is so upset?  If not, I agree with Amanda, tell her to get over it!  Not only are there people who can't have children, there are many children born with birth defects that will never have a normal life!  Be thankful the baby is healthy!   Unbelievable!

Answer 22

For those who are shocked, this is a typical Indian scenario. A girl child in unwelcome in this male dominated society. Girls are just looked at as something which is a liability and is treated as such her whole like. There are two issues here: 1. that the girl is not supposedly the heir apparent to the lineage- :"the light that carries on the family name" and 2. a girl is bound to result in the family being made to put in dowry during her marriage. Though urbane young Indian folks would tend to disagree and try to create a 'things are changing' picture, the reality is far from it. This whole ideology is like a maggot that has been eating out the girl population in India. India should rank perhaps First is female infanticide in the world. Its so sad. I've also, on the other hand, started noticing that almost everyone around me has started having a male child.I wonder and fear if its just evolution taking an unnatural course of action.  

Answer 23

Point out all of the positives there are. Like if they are close together, she probably has everything and there is no need to buy totally new things for a different gender. Sisters could grow up to be good friends (hopefully). Anything you can think of.

And of course, there is the fact that there are many totally infertile couples, or couple struggling with medical issues, and they would be THRILLED to have a baby - no matter what the s*x. And what about children born with severe, even life threatening illnesses? What about women who have to deal with the pain of having a stillborn? She should be thankful that she was able to conceive, carry, and birth a HEALTHY CHILD instead of being sad that she has 2 girls.