My sister hates me but asks my hubby for favors!?

Question

My sister, for some unknown reason, can not stand to be around me. She always starts a fight. I know one thing that bothers her is that she doesn't have a car and always resorts to asking me or her boyfriend for a ride. Now her boyfriend broke up with her, and instead of calling me for favors and rides, she calls my husband. Worse yet, she tells my husband how much I annoy her and why she hates me on the rides home! I worry about her safety, and I don't want her walking home at night, but I don't want my husband picking her up. He's started using this as ammo in fights when he says "Even your sister likes me and hates you!"

Every time I try to reconcile with her, she throws a fit and storms away. I've done everything, including checking my attitude at the door and sympathizing with how she feels. I think maybe I should write her a letter or something. What should I tell my husband? He and his family are close and he has no idea why this hurts so much. Also, my sister still has yet to tell me why she has so much hate towards me. It came from no where and started when I moved out 2 years ago.

Answer 1

SOUNDS LIKE YOUR SIS MIGHT B A LITTLE JEALOUSE OF YOU,,SO YES,,,WRITE HER A NICE LETTER,,DONT HAND IT TO HER MAIL IT TO HER N GIVE HER TIME TO READ IT,,LET HER GET IN TOUCH WITH YOU ABOUT IT,,POUR YOUR HEART OUT TO HER IN IT,,N TELL HER HOW HURT IT MAKES YOU FEEL THAT U TWO R NOT CLOSE,,AND IF I WERE YOU I WOULD START RIDING WITH YOUR HUBBY TO PICK HER UP,,CAUSE SOMETIMES JEALOUSE SISTERS LIKE GOING TO BED WITH  THERE BRO N LAWS,,PEACE

Answer 2

I know you might not want to hear this, but I think she wants to be you. Mostly because she wants your husband. I think he might like the attention she is giving him. He also might like the damsel is distress. Be careful, they might have taken it a step further if he is starting to use her liking him against you. I would not permit him being around her for atleast a month and see how he starts to act. How has your love life been? If it has gotten hottter, then he is only thinking about her. But if he doesn't want to much anymore, then yeah they are problibly having s*x. I would also, not help her anymore. She is a big girl and needs to start acting like it.

Answer 3

First of all she needs to STOp getting rides from your husband, asap

you should like go with him if he has to pick her up. Because the last thing you want is your sister beign a pain , turning your husband into a pain. then you need to talk to her and if she doesn't fix dont give her rides. or maybe if you give her the rides instead she might feel like you care about her and change her attitude or atleast open up to you. And you can tell your husband hey next time my sister calls you can you let me know so i can surprise pick her up instead and that way if you do it a couple times you guys can get closer. i think your first step though is to get her and your husband out of the same picture alone repeatedly.

Answer 4

just  try  work  out