My sister in law is always saying how my family is not close?

Question

shes always throwing that in me and my brothers face.......shes like "its not my fault you guys are not close" and it really bothers me and i told her yesterday that just because she is close to all her cousins and aunts well god bless them...but i told her that to me my family is my parents and brothers and thats all i need..cousins and aunts are just relatives and they are not family....family is what you make of it, not necessarily blood...aren't i right?

Answer 1

i totally agree, the only relatives of mine that i talk to are my mom, uncle and grandmother (my grandfather too, but he passed away). the rest of my relatives are a bit scary, and i was raised not to associate with them. and its funny how some people find that odd, like just because im related to them i should go hang out with em. yeah right, if i did that id probably end up addicted to crack or in jail!

Answer 2

just  talk  to here

Answer 3

It does not matter who you are "close" to in your family whether it be your siblings or your cousins. You should be grateful that you have the relationships that you do and you should say as much to your sister in law. Your family relationships are important to you and I'm sure hers are important to her and you should tell her that and leave it there.

Answer 4

Okay, I am in the exact same spot. My sister in law family is very close, mine isn't. On my nephew baptism her whole family was there (aunts, cousins, grandpa, grandma, etc), on my brother side of the family was just me.

She has absolutely no right to downgrade you because of it. If their family is closer or not doesn't mean a dime.

My grandfather on my mother side of the family had 12 sons, 24 grandsons and 34 great-grandsons. I rarely speak to any of them, barely even recognize them on the streets and I spend the holidays just me, my mother and my father and I am very happy that way.  

Answer 5

She comes from a different background and perceives the way your family interacts or lack of interaction or whatever as so much different from her experiences while growing up.  She may not be enthralled with the way you guys act towards each other, but she's doing so as an outsider, and if I may say so, must be one with very limited experience in seeing the way others react and intermingle.  She must have been very centered only in her own immediate family and did not have too many friends so she could relate to the way their families interact.  So she had no or very little experience to draw from in making these accusations.

Answer 6

Yes ur right don't let that hater make you mad

Answer 7

There are a lot of people who are only close with their immediate family and there is nothing wrong with that.

Maybe your sister-in-law is jealous because so much of her time is taking up with family affairs that she doesn't have time for herself the way you do.

Whatever the case may be, keep standing up for yourself and don't let walk all over you or make you feel badly about who you are and aren't close to.

Answer 8

You're absolute right. Your siser-in-law should understand that there are different dynamics in every family and that she should back off.  

Answer 9

Your exactly right. She's a douche

Answer 10

she is missing maybe what she once had....emotions do count yes...

What sign is she? Everyone isnt the same.. Tell her you will talk with her as much as you can and then do it..