My sister in-law is in love with me..Help please

Question

a bit of back story my sister in-law lives with me and my wife in our house because we want her to finish school and her parents where less then adequate. Well i have been married for a while and my wife's sister and her got in to a argument last night and i walked in the door and my wife asks me to talk to her sister. So i go up there and knock on the door and just walk up and start trying to figure out what the h**l happened. So we started talking and about an hour in to it i was sitting on the guest bed because i was tired of standing and she sat next to me and said Casey i love you and i really want you in me. I being kinda out of it said "what!?" she goes on and says she likes to watch me mow the lawn, work out, swim, and loves to see me when i walk out of the bathroom after my shower. She says she loves every thing about me and she wants to be with me. How do i tell her nicely there is no way in h**l that will ever happen she is only 16 years old and i am much older then her. Should i be concerned about her behavior? Should i tell my wife about what she said? I after she told me said i am not really wanting to talk about this right now i am tierd i am going to bed mainly because i didn't know what the h**l to say i see her more like my daughter then any thing.

Answer 1

if i was the wife, i would appreciate my husband telling me what really happened. but u shouldn't try to cause more conflict. jsut tell her that u're concerned that your sister in law might be going thru some phases and that she's mixed up with her feelings.

you should also confront ur sis in law that you are happily married to her sister and that no one can come btw u and her. tell her that you're flattered and that you shall return her "love" by treating her like your own little sister. be gentle yet firm and draw boundaries, don't sit on the same bed as she does and try not to be alone with her that much and cover up before "exposing" yourself to her. don't let her feel embarrassed or rejected, but she does need to know what she's feeling won't work. don't give her any space of imagination.

when disclosing to ur wife, leave out the lawn mowing and work-out part of it... just tell her that ur sister told me she's in love with me and i'm concerned that maybe she's emotionally traumatized or feeling really upset bc of ur arguement?

Answer 2

You need to tell your wife and you guys need to get her out of your house. She is no better than the parents the fact that she would try to stab her sister in the back after she tried to help her is appalling.

Answer 3

You need to talk to your wife about what she said.  You also need to be very careful about being in the house alone with her.  She could cause a whole lot of trouble if she gets it in her head that she's going to have you no matter what.  She could cry rape even if you haven't touched her...be careful!

It may be best that she move out.  She sounds like trouble.  She could simply be infatuated with you and confused about her feelings, but she could very well intend to seduce you.

You don't want to hurt her feelings, but you do need to set her straight...no need to be brutal, just to the point. You love her sister and are married to her sister and wouldn't be interested in her even if you weren't.  Get your wife to help.

Answer 4

...hey i saw an episode of george lopez like this one time......

Answer 5

She's only 16. It's a schoolgirl-type crush. It'll pass within a year, prolly sooner. Just tell her that you're flattered but you're happily married to her sister and there's no way anything will happen between the two of you. From now on, make sure you're fully clothed/covered up when walking through your house. Maybe set her up on some blind dates with some boys her age (like your coworkers kids or something).