My sister is a pothead;

Question

It seems like it's getting more and more frequent that my younger sister (she's 15) and I get into arguments about her lifestyle. She doesn't see things how I (sober) see it. I smoked everyday for 2 years until one day I decided I was done with this low-life lifestyle and have not smoked in a year and 3 months. I want her to see just HOW amazing real life is when she's not high all the time. Every time I try reasoning with her it just ends up worse than it was in the beginning. She compares herself to other low-lives saying "at least I'm in school" and "at least i'm not popping pills and shooting up heroin" which really frustrates me because that's not the point and as long as she thinks that way the longer she's never going to stop. I don't want to hear about how "harmless" it is from current smokers please. I just want her to get her life back. I've considered calling the cops many times but I don't know exactly what they would do. My mom recently started smoking as well and if I sent them to their house (I live on my own) i'm afraid she'd be taken away or something and my mom would be even more stressed then she is now. What should I do?? Please help!! If something doesn't happen soon i'm going to refuse to come into contact with either of them and then when my family asks i'm going to have to give them a reason, the reason being their oblivious to life because they're potheads and then that'll start a whole new drama because no one in my family approves of that nor do they know. Any suggestions??

Answer 1

everyone is entitled to their own opinion. believe me, there are worse things.

Answer 2

Show her what smoking does to her lungs by showing her pictures on google. Also before that try to tie her to a chair so she cant leave. Show her live above the influence comercial on abovetheinfluence.com The cops will only arrest her

Answer 3

Honestly the only real possibility for you is to confront the situation or like you said ignore them for a while until they realize that you don't want that around you in your life....my dad smoked pot since he was 15..he is now 46.. he did it all the way up until about 3 years ago and then he quit..i didn't know this at the time...about a year ago he started it back up again..only this time i caught him in the garage doing it and he tried to explain to me that he is not a bad person for doing it and a bunch of bull about how smoking pot isn't all bad....I ignored him, gave him the cold shoulder was kind of a d**k to him until he realized that I didn't want that in my life because I straight up said to him that if he did not stop smoking I wouldn't speak to him and I will tell everyone in the family, my little sister, my grandma and grandpa...everyone...he didn't stop for a couple months and didn't even phase him that I wasn't talking to him or any of that..until the day that he needed me more than ever and I refused to be of any service to him and he finally realized that when he needed me more than ever and i refused he stopped smoking pot and he has been clean for more than 6 months..yay...so although you don't want a messy situation you might have to get into one because thats really the only way that they are going to realize that there is a better life without pot....hope this helps!!

Answer 4

ok well you need to think  you smoked for 2 years and you just recently stopped.  Did anyone ever call the cops on you?  That will not solve anything other than making her pissed off at you and se may not ever look at you the same.  You need to tell here how pot can hurt her in many ways..it can cause memory loose, it makes you lazy, it makes you gain weight (due to munchies) tell her to make a pro and con list about pot. Which side out weighs the other?  It may take er a wile to see but she will come around.  

Answer 5

relax, weed isnt cocaine or x, and your sister is too young to be smoking, so you should have a serious talk if your concerned for her health or whatever, but remember weed afftects everyone differently, so she might not understand where your coming from. Your mom shouldnt be smoking, talk to her as well. Youd be surprised what a simple serious convo can do.

Answer 6

I love that nobody that answers seems to care that it's illegal.

You need to tell someone else that you can trust- maybe a grandparent, aunt, or uncle that can help you get the message to your mom.

You obviously care about your family, so I wouldn't call the cops on them just yet, but I would suggest looking for ways to get them medical help.

Answer 7

Kinda crazy that this is yuor questoin cause I went through the same thing with my sister. I tried EVERYTHING to get her to stop. I stopped talkign to her for a good 3 months thinking she would quit but she never did. (My sister was more than just a pothead though, she also did cocaine, drank excessively, and popped pills, AND was failing school) She is 16 getting ready to be 17. Well I thought maybe talking to my mom about it would help the situation but my Mom was in complete denile, and she did nothign to try and get my sister to stop, so finally I took matters into my own hands. And just like you yea I did experiment with smoking weed btu there is a difference when you go through a phase, as most teenagers do, and thinking that doing these things is a way of life. So I found out where my sister and her friends hung out at and I waited til she went there and then I called the cops. Her and 3 of her friends were arrested, yea they had to go to court, yea she is doing community service, and yes she is on probation, but thats tough love. She has to pass drug tests once a month now so she doesn't smoke anymore, her grades in school have improved, and she was mad at me to begin with but now she see's why I did what I did. She is alot happier with her life now. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

Answer 8

well i think your sister needs your mothers support and with ur mom smokin too, it dont seem like shes going to get that. Its sad that your being more of a parent to ur little sister than your mother is. Is ur dad in your life at all and if so id tell him whats going on and possibly he can take your sister from your mom and get her the help she needs. Good luck and keep on your sister... eventually she will wake up and see the life. I hope!

Answer 9

i would just straight up tell them if they dont stop i am never talking to them again. dont go over there house, send them cards or watever, they might stop. if not send them to a rehibilitation center. it might be the only way.

Answer 10

it could be alot worse

Answer 11

sorry but you have to let her live her life. she'll just hate you even more of you tell her what to do. if you found your way out of weed so will she. just give it time.  

Answer 12

leave your sister and mom alone

Answer 13

woah, you are extremely extreme. i think it's nice and all to be concerned for your family, but honestly, 15 is not THAT young. I think she's old enough to make her own choices, and TOO BAD what u want. If you're gonna be a baby, then leave them alone.  you are a hypocrite.. just cause u didn't like it, means she can't?  you made your own decision as to when to start and then stop, what makes YOU think you have the right to tell HER when to do those things?  Things effect people different ways, not always your experience will be hers.  Maybe doing it doesn't affect her the way it did you. I say leave them to make thier own choices, cause it's not fair that u get to make your own choices, but your sister has to listen to you?  you should grow up.