I think my relationship with my sister is a total wreck! She always gets into money troubles then looks for a bail out. When she did that the last time I was out of the country and working like a dog, so I did not confront her until I got home. When I brought it up, she giggled as if she had pulled one over on me and I felt so stupid for helping her again. Tonight, she told me that she's in trouble and that she should have told me sooner. Since she is stressed and freaked, she has no idea how she comes across - intense!!! my body went into shakes from her energy!!! Talking to her is like watching a machine gun come at an ant, it's too much to handle and I can't think in the face of so much anger and frustration. I know she wants to do things for herself, she's 36 single mom, but she lets things go until it's a panic which she then uses to justify how rude she is to me and my family. My family and I have made things pretty good for her. I helped pay for her first studies, helped her with seperation from husband, family helped buy her house, I helped with furniture and lots of other details too, I have given her a lot, more than anyone has ever given me, I have stood by her and supported her. She shows no responsibility, has a sense of entitlement and expects help on demand. When she is confronted, she changes gears and acts all reasonable when just minutes ago she was dismissive and rude. She says all the right things sometimes, but her actions don't match her words. I told her I can't talk to her because I just don't know what to say anymore, she is a ticking time bomb. She has no idea how intense she is and that she affects those around her, especially her son who is the love of my life. With us not getting along, I am afraid that I will lose out on time with my nephew but I don't have any control over that.
I was very angry tonight and I called her on her daily pot smoking and her messy home and that was more than she was expecting since nobody dares to call her on her sht in case she gets upset - I'm done tip toeing around her.
What do I say to make her understand that it's not just about her, that she can't live beyond her means, and that she can't be so disrespectful to the very people who help her time and again? Or do I just go away, not speak to her and perhaps lose my nephew which would kill me?
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