My sister is a tomboy?

Question

Well kinda. She hates girly stuff and hates the Jonass Sisters (doesn't care the slightest about the mild swearing in the term). She loves to read, but kind of has a romantic side to her-she loves hearing stories of forbidden love, but not much else really. She is very creative and loves to write and draw. She's mostly hangs out with the boys and only has girlfriends to gossip about "the mean kids" and talk about periods, not really the latest fashions. She's stubborn and though she's not that athletic, she'd much prefer chasing people around the playground than singing to the Jonass Sisters. BUT now she's older and people are calling her a jerk and she thinks Mom doesn't like her becauses she's not the dream frilly girl mom kind of was. So what should I do?

Answer 1

Give her a wonderful, frilly, not showy dress like this:

http://www.modestprom.com/images/blueshe...

Show her how God intended her, and support her artistic and literary interests. But show her why boys should be boys, girls should be girls.

Answer 2

Either get her something from an arts & crafts shop OR give her a gift certificate to one so she can pick out what she wants.

You say she is creative, give her the opportunity to tap into that creative side!

I grew up as a tomboy.  I preferred male friends. I climbed trees, went rabbit hunting, collected fossils, rode horses...

Nothing unusual or to be stressed over.  I grew up fine.  Always liked boys and made lots of great guy-friends.

Loosen up and just get her something she shows an interest in and you won't go wrong.

...maybe my mom didn't like me much either, but I never noticed....

072508  2:50

Answer 3

What has hating the Joanass Sisters got to do with being a tomboy??? Your sister sounds like a perfectly normal girl to me, and a future artist, especially with the talents she has. Perhaps the boys treat her far better than the "mean girls" do- have you ever thought of that? If that's the case, no wonder she hangs out with them. It would not hurt you to learn a few things from her, especially about manners and treating people with respect.

So your sister isn't interested in fashions and hairstyles- that HARDLY makes her a tomboy. I WASN'T interested in them EITHER until I was out of college and working, and I am not a tomboy. She will develop an interest in her appearance as she gets older, because eventually, it will dawn on her that if she wants to get attention from guys, then she needs to dress and act in ways that are appropriate. Your sister just needs time to see this, and to learn to ignore the name calling you and your friends are doing. In my experience, it's the person who calls someone else names who has a LOT of problems herself- and would you per chance fit into that category, pal??

Your sister is her own person, with her own interests- which she has every right to be. In your shoes, I would apologize to her, and make more of an effort to be less judgemental. There is more to life than having the latest fashions or liking the Jonass Sisters- and you know it !!

Enough said.

Answer 4

She's just not really "feminine," and I can really relate!  I hated Barbie dolls, but loved my bike.  I hated dresses, but really loved looking for lizards and crawcrabs in the swamp.  She is who she is; leave her alone and let her be herself without trying to analyze her.

Answer 5

your sister is just being her own person

Answer 6

Your sister is her own person. Don't try to change her. Just reassure her that mom loves her. If she doesn't believe it, you all need to sit down and talk about your sisters insecurity. Parents should love their children no matter how they are.

Answer 7

Jonas sisters who are they i  think you mean Jonas BROTHERS

Answer 8

I was a tom boy in my younger days, but then I grew out of it, maybe the same will happen to your sister, but I have no idea whats wrong with being a tom boy, I mean its no harm. Your mom doesn't like her because she isn't a frilly girl, sorry but thats messed up. Your mother should love her regardless, shes a tom boy get used to love! Its her life, its not as if she is affecting or ruining her life ggeeez, give the kid a break.