My sister is 28, first off and I am 13. She just got engaged to a guy yesterday and she said yes but I see big problems with this. He is 21 years old, gave her a cheap 'promise' ring, doesn't have a car (got a DUI) has an ok job and they don't live together. It's not so much a money thing, just they have only been together 6 months and he is kinda young, etc.
She recently told him (like 2 weeks ago) that things were moving kind of fast and she needed space. She spends almost all her time at work or with him and I almost never see her. She complains he is 'taking over' her life and she's told him nemerous times that she needs space but he doesn't seem to get it. She says she loves him and may want to marry him one day but admitted that this is way too soon for her. She said she really wants them both to have thier lives more stable before they get more serious. I may be a kid but I kind of see where she is coming from. This is her fourth engagement and none of the other guys gave her a 'real' ring either. She is really pretty and nice and deserves a guy who can give her everything. Why does she keep going for these losers? No offense to the guy, he is cool and everything but he doesn't have anything to offer her.
They are really in love, I think and he does treat her right. But all day she has been upset saying "It's way too soon" and "I am not ready" and "I don't want to take things so fast I just want to have fun." and she isn't like happy, planning a wedding etc. She keeps asking ME what she should do and I have never had a bf so I have no idea.
So...I need your opinions. So next time she starts asking 'what do I do?' I can make some suggestions. Should she leave him and date other people? Should she break the engagement and tell him it's too soon? Should she do nothing? Keep in mind she really does love him and doesn't want to hurt his feelings.
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