My sister is getting married, why am I not excited about it ?

Question

My sister is getting married for the second time and I am very happy for her. I on the other hand have never been married or engaged ( I'm a man and 2 years older ) . So why do I feel very depressed about everything in my life ( even though I am happy for her ) ?

Answer 1

It's probably just stirring up some emotions in you & causing you to look at YOUR life.  That's okay.  It's not at all uncommon.  Just remember that you don't live anyone else's life, only yours.  Get out there & hook up with a cool girl.  

Answer 2

Because you need a woman in your life.

Answer 3

probably cause you are not married and you are older! is ok sweetie just be happy for your sister and try to try to find someone special that can make you happy! xoxo

Answer 4

Maybe you have the hots for your sister.

Answer 5

You can certainly feel happy and depressed at the same time. I suspect that your unhappiness is simply due to the realization that you are no where close to where you want to be.

You sister is getting married but it sounds like that is exactly what you want for yourself. Wanting and being ready for that kind of relationship can put you in a position of feeling depressed if you are no where close to achieving it. So, I think many people in your position are going to go down a spiral of thinking such as: "Why haven't I found the love of my life? What is wrong with me? Where am I going in life? What is my purpose? Am I really happy in my job?" Etc.

I think what you are going through is a normal part of life and relationships. I wish you well.  

Answer 6

I think you just answered your own question.

Answer 7

Maybe, you are just feeling a little jeolous because you did not get married yet.  If that's the way that you are feeling maybe you should take your relationships a little more serious so that you can be the one to get married soon.  Good Luck!!!

Answer 8

You wish you had the same thing in your life, and maybe you would like to be married and making plans.  

Answer 9

Just because things aren't as clear cut as with her life you still have many things to be grateful for ...take a pause and write a list of even the simplest of things you have and for the wonderful person you are...then in gratitude for where your sister is at again be happy for she is living her life according to what she chose...love will come for you my friend when you live well and think happy and get rid of negativity at all levels.....

Answer 10

Maybe you think you should be the one getting married. By the way, why aren't you married.

Answer 11

Probably because she's getting married (and for a second time too!) and you're not!!!!

Don't measure your life by someone else's standards.

If you are depressed about your life do something about it.  You are the master of your own destiny!

Sh*t I'd give anything to be free and travel again.  Plan a trip and take a tour somewhere...sheesh!!! No telling what adventures await you in life but none of them will ever happen sitting at home tapping on a computer!! ;~)

Answer 12

you know its normal to be depressed about ones self when a member of a family is having the grandest time of their lives,it makes you look back on ur own and re assest it,and if youll find out that theres love missing...you relly wud feel low. hey youre a man and its your choice if you want to be engaged or be married,i think you should not worry bacause marriage is not a hot potato that u cud drop easy when you got scorched...lol