My sister is ttc and she is getting on my nerves!?

Question

my sister is trying to conceive and whilst i am really happy for her, she is doing my head in. Everytime i ask her to do something she responds with 'i might be pregnant by then'. A typical example is tonight, i just phoned her and asked if she wanted to go to Alton Towers at the end of september, and she said 'well i wont be able to if i am pregnant', we're talking about 4 weeks away and shes not pregnant now.

Was anyone of YA like this when they were ttc, is it normal to behave like this, or is she being a drama queen?

Your thoughts please............................

Answer 1

when you are trying to conceive it can take over your life! and you are constantly looking to the future and hoping "i may be pregnant by then!"

i can see how it will get annoying for those around, I'm sure my mum and family felt the same way you do when we were trying to conceive, just try and stay patient. It's horrible when you are so desperate for a baby and it never happens and you will spot pregnant women and new borns everywhere!!

as annoying as she maybe, her pain at not having a baby is probably 10 times stronger than your frazzled nerves! Hopefully it won't be long till she is pregnant, then you can have a different record on...shall i buy this for the baby, my baby moved, i have a niggling pain is the baby ok? good luck and count to 10!! x

Answer 2

I suppose it is reasonable of her to want to forward plan and think ahead and also ttc does become totally obsessive! I gave up drinking and was a bit of a party pooper when I was ttc first time, and it was a good job too cos after not getting lashed on booze at christmas (I had been tempted!) I found out I was 6 weeks pregnant in January. In fact I only took a test on the spur of the moment because I had thought 'right, I'm going to get drunk for once!' as me and my hubby were going out.

But I can't see why she would turn down Alton towers as she could still go, or pull out once she knew she was pregnant so I guess its just an excuse to bring the subject up. If you don't feel like being supportive then just stop inviting her anywhere unless its on the day or the next day event....

Answer 3

DRAMA QUEEN! I have been trying to conceive for over 2 years with 2 failed pregnancies, i have never once declined to do something. I have stated for last minute engagements that I am just too tired to attend. For engagements farther out than 2 weeks I would say I'll get back to you be a certain date. There is a such thing as keeping yourself healthy and safe, then there is going overboard and missing out on life. You can still go out with friends. I did, i would go to smokeless bars and drink water, and still have a great time. Maybe someone should talk to her about being so pre-occupied with TTC that she is missing out on other great opportunities.

Answer 4

just tell her how you feel.. .and maybe she will stop it saying over and over and over!

but she is probably just really excited to get pregnant and become a mommy...

Answer 5

I understand her predicament. I have been TTC for 9th month now & DH asked if we want to go to Melbourne for 2 weeks in end of Sep. I told him if I fall pregnant by then, we will go for a place nearer (Melbourne is 7 hrs - 2 flight away). I want to make sure my baby is safe after TTC'ing for 9 months. But I still go out & have a good time, as long as its not too far away

Answer 6

Hi, the trouble is, trying to get pregnant overtakes your whole life! I only tried for my first child for 3 months, it was a nightmare! You worry about everything you do, eat, drink etc! Just let her get on with it! Look forward to being an auntie!

Answer 7

you should stop pestering her steve

Answer 8

unfortunately, when you're ttc, it tends to consume all your thoughts. Your sister may be a little dramatic but try to be patient with her. If its bothering you that much, why don't you try being honest and letting her know. She may not even realize she's doing it.

Answer 9

Yeah, I think she's taking it a little too far!

Answer 10

it does seem like shes being a bit of a drama queen but maybe shes just really excited about maybe having a baby

Answer 11

If she starts thinking like that then she will be wasting her life!

She needs to relax a lot more than she is, and as a fellow woman ttc, i can completely understand how difficult that is!!

Encourage her to come with you and enjoy life a bit more.. Maybe she will be pregnant by then, maybe not... But she shouldn't be putting her life on hold...  

Answer 12

Maybe you could try reminding her that relaxing and doing fun things make you more likely to conceive! If she tries (I know it's really hard to do) to forget just for a day or two to go away she might find thats all it takes to succesfully conceive. Good luck to both of you!