My sister makes up false rape allegations, but only when drunk?

Question

my sister who has a history of mental problems, but recoverd and is now training to be a lawyer, occasionaly gets drunk and recently she has started saying that she got raped by this family member when she was young, I know he wouldnt do this. she has not made any reports to the police, but i ahve heard that she ahs told her doctor and is getting counselling, she never mentions rape when sober. and never mentioned it when she was anorexic / self harming and taking overdoses etc. my family are not happy that she is telling all these lies about us. we dont know what her problem is, is it that some peole are prone to telling lies when they are drunk?

we dont get on with her, ans she hardly speaks to us, so talking is not an option, but what would u do if u had a sister like this?

Answer 1

She may be telling the truth!

Her mental problems could be the result of her abuse when she was younger.

How many times when people have found out that someone they thought they knew had been found guilty for being an abuser,paedophile,or murderer said they found it hard to believe?

Try and be open minded and try to build bridges.

Answer 2

Perhaps she is telling the truth and can only express herself when drunk.

You said she self harming and over dosing did it not seem strange when she was doing this then?

Sounds like she was crying out for help then, but no one responded to her.

Maybe if she talked to someone apart from family she would of got help?

Seems like you are not prepared to believe because you think it couldn't of happened have you tried talking to her?

Or are you the one being accused?

Hope this helps

Answer 3

how can you be so sure that they are false?

Answer 4

Is part of the problem that you are judging without hearing her side of the story? Unfortunately, these things do happen. That is not to say that she is telling the truth - I do not know her and have not heard what she has to say. However, the way your question is worded suggest that you have concluded she is lying simply on the basis of your past knowledge of the family member and your knowledge of your sister's past health problems. I do know of people who could only talk about this kind of experience when they were drunk; it was the only way they could face what was for them a shameful episode.

Perhaps talking is not an option because she assumes that you will not/do not believe her? Is there any way of repairing bridges? This does sound so sad.