My sisters and my ex-husband?

Question

I married my who I thought was my other half.....we dated all through highschool, but were seperated by circumstances at age 16...10 years passed, we both had been married and had 3 kids and divorced.

One day I get a call and It is him.....he had been looking for me for years.....after that we were inseperable...our kids loved eachother and we loved the 6 kids.....we made a home and had a great life.....or so I thought.....it turns out he had been sleeping with the secretary at his work for 3 years as well as two other girls and I had no idea...the secretary and her husband came to our home almost every weekend for BBQ’s and we shared hollidays and fun times..our families were good friends...when I first started getting clues something was not right..it was the seretary who assured me that he would never cheat....He said he was late a-lot because the kids were driving him nuts and he was fishing...whatever.

We agreed to move to our hometown and be near family...and about a year or two later the secretary thinks she is talking to my husband on the internet and said she missed the way he ate her out.......in our truck!

I was leaving him...I kicked his *** out that night...for weeks he begged for another chance...after thinking it over, I loved our family so much I agreed to try...but then my sisters told me he was with a blonde in the truck across town, and he lied to me about it...then they said he was comming by their house while i was at work and flirting with them and even once at a bbq i saw him toung flicking his beer bottle and staring at my little sister.....I divorced him and moved away.......

Now my sisters have him over to thier homes and have him on their myspace accounts and he is around my family ..... they think I am being stupid...they say they forgave him and stayed friends....and for me to not worry about it...but I feel really **** on by my sisters for keeping him in their lives after I left town to make a new life and try to heal....all my life I thought about him, loved him and was so proud to be his wife and he killed me....am I crazy to think my sisters are backstabbing no good women to "FORGIVE" the man that broke my heart and continue a relationship with him?...They tell me all the time that he is a drunk and a pig and I was smart for divorcing him....but something feels all wrong that they are doing this...I know it was a eago boost for my sisters to get flirted with by a very good looking brother in law...but what about loyalty?...I would never let their ex’s come over if they got hurt like that!

especially since I filed divorce based on what they told me he was doing comming over early in the morning and catching her comming out of the shower with a towel on....and doing the flirting trash......I dont regret leaving him..I am too strong to let a man act that way.....but my sisters......

I am about to walk away from having sisters....help....

If several people could give me their opinion I would appreciate it.

Answer 1

first of all, let me congratulate you for having the guts to divorce ur husband, even if it truly hurts deep inside.  he is one manipulative person, and a user at that.  it must have been such an ego booster for him to have you after such long years of no communication. he probably think he's a gift to women, and every woman he gets to bed with is another feather in his cap.

but what i dont understand is these sisters... what are they thinking, really??? our family is pretty much close, and if this case happens to anyone in the family, you can be sure that husband of yours will be banned for life, unless and until you give the go signal, and has clearly moved on.  

suggest that you refrain from communicating with your sisters for a while, to let them realize how betrayed you have felt by what they've done. i just dont understand how they can be friends again with a sister's ex husband who have flirted with them in the first place... not unless they somehow enjoyed the :(  

Answer 2

well glad u kicked him to the curb good 4 u as for ur family still having contact with him hes prolly just sucking up to them

Answer 3

I'm sorry for the betrayals you have been thru but I don't see how any of this sordid mess is going to get better until you let go of your ex.  Clearly he hasn't learned his lesson.  You'll never be able to trust him & that's not a way to live.  You deserve a man who will love & be true to you. They're not all taken either.  Don't buy into the false belief that it's too late to find real love.  As long as we live & breathe, it's never too late.  

Answer 4

You need to tell your sisters how you feel about this and stand your ground. You don't want to lose your family over this *****. You need to stand up and have them hear you loud and clear. Just don't talk to them as long as he's in their life. When he's gone, come back. I'm sorry you had to deal with all that. I hope you find someone who makes you happy real soon.  

Answer 5

glad to hear you got rid of the rat bas^^^d.  you deserve better and so do your kids.  as for your sisters, they are seriously messed up.    not everyone deserves to be in your life and they certainly don't.  just because they're family doesn't mean you have to put up with them or their nonsense.

make your life better all the way around and walk away.  

Answer 6

ur sisters are wrong for letting him into thier lives.....

Answer 7

you did the right thing getting rid of him now you go talk firmly to your sisters and tell them it hurts you deeply that they are having anything to do with someone who treated you so badly their your sisters and sisters are supose to stick together through good and bad times and never side with a ex if they want quit seeing him tell them that you love them but dont like them very well now you feel betrayed and until they stop hurting you they should just stay away from you and stop breaking your spirit and heart

Answer 8

just live your life

Answer 9

Choose the right people to be in your life.

Answer 10

Personally, I think that if your sisters Love you and they know he hurt you they should, just stop any type of contact with him. But you know If they want to talk to him let them. Just ask them not to tell you anything about him or what he is doing unless it has to do with something really important that would concern your children. I don't think you should stop talking to your sisters. You have moved on as you said and now you are living a better life. Don't allow him to take away the love of your family. He already hurt you enough, So I think that you should just talk to your sisters and let them know how you feel and if they keep on talking to him that is their deal. Just for them not to bring you and take any sh***** t!!! to him , and for them to tell him anything about your life other then how your kids are doing. Life is too short to be mad at those that are your family,one day they will realize it. But, you will always hold your head up high because regardless what they are doing you still kept your love for them, and the time will come when they will apologize. Stay strong because you  have come this far now. Don't let their actions be your problem,you have your kids your new life now live happy and enjoy it. As for myspace leave them your regular msg's and if he is leaving msgs about you on their page then just stop going to their pages delete them and let them know why you took them off. I am sure they will understand. Remember that their is someone up their watching over us and he is taking care of you now. This is just another test he is sending you to see if your really are strong, and by loving your sisters and family no matter what they have done!! you will show how strong your are.

Take Care, Remember God is Greater Then Any Challanges We Have In Life!!!! He is always with us.. God Bless, and I hope you make the right decision.Blood Is Thicker Then Water.