My sisters rude kids?

Question

I have sunday dinner at my parents house. This includes me and my older sister. My children are 8 and 10. Her children are 9 12 and 14. Her kids are so rude to the whole family but nobody stands up to my sister. They are rude in front of her and her husband but she just ignores them

14 girl asked me...I think you should take a pregancy test

also told my 8 year old to go on a diet...told my 10 year old son that he was a baby and will never be good at sports (his fav thing in the whole word)

8 year old ....said f@@kin granny...calls me a little girl and I should go home....gets right in my face and says she is going to punch me

I don't know what to do.....should I stop going and stop seeing my parents...confront her and make it very awkard at all family events?? as far as I know they are not like this with other people or families...HELP!!!!

Answer 1

I had a 12 year old cousin call me a  fat useless ******** (euphemism for homosexual). It was in front of about 20 relatives.

I laughed it off.

The next time over, I swiped their yellow pages and knocked him out cold with it.

He doesn't disrespect me anymore.

Answer 2

Boycott your parents house for a week or two! Maybe your mom and dad need to speak to your sis, and if you tell them you won't be going over until someone at least talks to her, they may do it. Say you don't want your kids exposed to the drama. Had a similar situation in my family, this worked for us!  

Answer 3

YOu should absolutely confront your sister about the behavior of her children.  My parents would never allow that kind of disrespect towards other adults from us.  And if we even had the idea of disrespecting any other adult in this way, our parents would do something about it.  What your sister is doing is allowing her children to run the show, which is inappropriate because it ruins a good time for everyone.  And you know what you should not feel bad about "making things awkward".  Don't you think it would be awkward if your sister's kids start being the c**p out of her in public places, because it sounds like they are not to far from it.

I understand that you may enjoy this time you spend together with your family. But you need to stick up for yourself and for your kids.  STOP ACCEPTING THIS BEHAVIOR. OR GIVE THEM A TASTE OF THEIR OWN MEDICINE.....and if your sister has ANYTHING to say about it.....I would tell her....when you and your kids learn to respect my kids and myself, THAN AND ONLY THAN will I stop.  Until than, all is fair game.  

Answer 4

Oh wow...how embarrassing for your sister. I would def pull her aside and talk to her in private & just let her know that her children's behavior upsets you & your children....remain polite dont say anything too negative..she may be in denial. I know if my children acted like that id be mortified. Good luck