My sixteen year old daughter- is very aggressive and defiantwards myself and her father. Is this just horm?

Question

Is this just hormonlal or truly an emotional problem?

Answer 1

no its gone beyond that she is pressing for her freedom. you need to stick to your guns on this one and lay down some boundaries. if she acts up again take away a privilage eg tv, ipod, mobile phone for a week she'll then come to understand to get respect she has to show respect. i was like this at 16 my mother did this and i quickly learned. i'm now 20 and a mom to 2 boys and thank my mom for what she did. your daughter wants to be seen as an adult but she isnt undrstanding o be treated like one you have to act like one. there may also be somehing bothering her like school, etc. sit down and have a heart to heart but listen to what she says dont cut across her or get defencive just listen and ask her to do the same. when you have all said your peace you may come to find a better understanding of why she fels she has to behave in this way. i was acting out because i was being bullied, i was depressed and i couldnt figure out how to get my feelings across so i got angry and frustrated. please talk to her and find out but dont nag just let her know that you are always there to listen and you'd like to help. she wil come to you when she is ready just let her know she can trust you not to loose your cool when she does.  

Answer 2

Well teens today have more emotional stress then we did , so the best advice i can give you is to let her know you both love her ,keep an eye on her but try not to be to nosey cause this can push her away ,these are the teen years and all teens go through this and yes hormons play a huge role.but have faith pray and remember most teens snap out of it by the time they reach 17,and start to act much more mature,,best of luck to you and your family..

Answer 3

No it is not normal. Even though that is used as an excuse all too often.

There is a deeper problem. Somebody she can really trust, needs to

talk to her.

To be moody around and during her period could be accepted but otherwise not. Depression may also be a reason.

Get some professional help.

You may also speak with her Teachers to see what her behavior is like

towards them.

I could give you a ton of reasons for why she is behaving this way.

I counseled a lot of young people. Please, get help soon.

I wish all of you well.

Answer 4

It's unfortunately, perfectly normal. They generally grow out of it as soon as they leave home for the first time and realise how easy they used to have it. Or if they stay at home....24.

Answer 5

Sounds like to me she needs someone else to talk to besides you and her dad. Since she has an appointment with the doctor bring it up to the doctor before you bring her there to give the heads up. He/she might set aside more time to talk to your daughter to see what is bothering her. He may suggest that it is her hormones and want tests done or that she is hitting puberty. I would suggest counseling for her and see what else is bothering her and have a way to get her anger out and express herself.