My skinny friend??? am i right or is she

Question

Me and my mate had a fall out am i right or is she

my mate sarah is like 15 and about 90lbs

shes really skinny and wears size 00 clothes ( uk 4)

She's always eating and always says she doesn't put weight on because she has a fast metabolism.

Yesterday i said to her that a fast metabolism is just an excuse skinny people use to cover up eating disorders ( thats what my mum told me) and she says but you know i eat loads and then i was like well your probably puke it up. (my mum agrees sarah is so skinny and it can't be natural) Then she told me i was just jealous because I'm overweight ( Im a healthy size 10 ... uk 12 i think) then we got in a big argument and i told her what i thot of her and that she was a bi*ch and she thinks because she's pretty and skinny she can treat people like **** and mess all the boys around. and then she said that its not her fault boys like her and not me. and now she isn't answering my calls. But who is right me or her???

Everyone else always goes on to her about how she's so slim and lucky and boys are all over her. Am i the only one who she's through her lies's. You can't be naturally a size 00 can you???

Do you think i should just not be friends with her

Answer 1

sorry but i think your wrong , my friend is a US 0 and she is healthy but insecure about he size because she gets teased about being so skinny and she is so beautiful

US 10 is a UK 14 and that's a big chunky

people should stop being concerned with under eating and more concerned with over eating because we have an obesity epidemic

BTW everybody carbohydrate conversion rate ( metabolism) is different.

Answer 2

Victoria beckham, she is the same size and voted one of the most skinnest people in the world, its not a healthy wait and yeah she would have to have a eating disorder to be that skinny!

Answer 3

*sighs* I'm a size ten in childrens through 0 in teens and 5"4 and I eat junkloads of sweets and meat and stuff, it doesn't mean she is anorexic/bulimic it might just be she has a high metaolism it really hurts when people call you an anorexic I wouldn't be surprised if your friend is mad at you D:

Answer 4

I think she should not be friends with you.

As far as i know size 10 is not "healthy"

People acutally do have a high matobolism

its not an excuse.

stop being jealous

Answer 5

Fast metabolism does exist.  My daughter eats like a piggy, is 14 and wears a 00.  I was a 00 until I was 25 years old.  I know many people who can eat and eat and not gain an ounce and none have them have eating disorders.  Being naturally thin does not mean there is a problem.  People come in all sizes.  Accusing her of puking her food up with no proof was crossing the line.  I don't blame her for not answering your calls.

Answer 6

Typically I say its not natural to be that skinny.  But my best friends eats seriuoslyALL day.  She is a double 0 and xs in shirts.  She also, has a disease.  So idk who is right, but I think it was wrong for her to call you overweight.  A size 10 isn't overweight, heck its not even a plus size?  So idk what shes talking about :]

Answer 7

wow your a *****.

yes people can be that naturally skinny and just have a fast metabolism,

my best friend JUST fits into a 00 and she eats like the world and i have never heard or seen her puke it up once. and yeah i would notice cause we spend basicly every second together.

im a 0, i never work out and i eat ALOT.

hmm so do i have an eating disorder too?

people at school call both me and my friend annorexic and its ******* annoying.

the funny thing is there all fat and ugly

so its pretty obvious that there jelous.

and its pretty obvious your jealous too cause your fat.

JUST TO LET YAH KNOW size 10 is not healthy

thats gross

theres a reason guys dont like you

cause your fat and have an annoying personallity

probably ugly too.

go eat another twinkie f****s.

Answer 8

Well, you would be right, but the problem with bulimia is that when you throw up so much, your body retains water to try and keep its nutrients, and therefore bloats. So if she were all bloated it would be true. Another thing you could do is try and talk to her parents and tell them to take her to a dentist, because if you throw up that much, it ruins the enamel on your teeth, and a dentist would notice that. Then ask her parents how the exam went?

And if you decide I'm right on this, then you should try and talk to your friend and apologize.

Answer 9

in health class they say evan if yourskinnyand eat al the time and you have a "fast metabolism" it catches up with u .

Answer 10

I'd be pretty offended if I were her...I am 15, 5 feet tall and just about 90lbs, maybe a few over. I wear 00 and 0 sized clothes and I have always been like this. She probably does just have a fast metabolism and if someone has an eating disorder, you would know. I don't loose weight I just gain slowly, if she had an eating disorder she would actually be loosing it. Maybe shes like me and she eats healthy foods as well as having a fast metabolism because she knows that you can be thin and still have high blood pressure/cholesterol and and unhealthy heart from eating bad food. Just because you are thin AND eat healthy food, doesn't mean you have an eating disorder. If I were her I would figure that you were just jealous that I was thin and you were not, and I wouldn't want friends who were jealous of everything I did, so I can't blame her if she doesn't want to be your friend anymore.

Answer 11

well answer me this... what are you getting out of the friendship? now i don't mean you should only befriends if the price is right... but if you are arguing alot and feel she is a b**ch maybe it's not a good friendship. are you having good times with her too? if all you have a negative feelings around her then maybe you shouldn't be friends.

now maybe she does just have a super high metabolism and is really naturally that skinny, or maybe you are right and she does have an eating disorder... sound like you went through a similar disorder, if you are worried about your friend start looking for other signs, you should already know some of what to look for... using the bathroom soon after eating, any pills she make be taking, and if you discover things that are more concrete you may want to bring that up to her parents

Answer 12

no offense, but she's definitely right.

i'm 15 and 95 pounds, and i know exactly how she feels. all my life i've been accused of having an eating disorder, even my own mother has accused me of it several times.

it really, honestly isn't her fault she's skinny. having a fast metabolism isn't some myth, it's a fact.

i have to agree with some of the ladies above me. you and your mother sound like you are just a tad jealous.

i'd grow up and get over it before it ruins your friendship

Answer 13

honestly i wouldn't be friends with her.

i don't believe it's healthy to be that skinny either

Answer 14

im 14 and 99 pounds, and i dont have an eating disorder, (it looks like i do though) and i say the same thing that she says, i have a fast metabolism, which is the truth...she could have an eating disorder, but she may not, just trust what she tells u, and i think that both of u are wrong, and should apologize to each other....

p.s. ur mom is wrong, it is sometimes natural to be that skinny!!!

Answer 15

Wow.. it sounds like to me you may have a little resentment for your friend.. It is possible to be that skinny and if your her friend you would believe her when she tells you that she doesn't have a ED.. If you can't believe her than maybe you shouldn't be her friend!

Sorry if I sound kinda harsh its just sad to hear of a friendship being split over a weight issue that isn't even sound serious..

Good Luck with the friendship!

Answer 16

you shouldn't have said what you said to her. and she DEFINATELY didn't have the right to say you're jealous/overweight.  i don't think either are right. but did you apologize?

Answer 17

You can't just assume she has an eating disorder because she is a 00. I am a 00 and I DO NOT have and eating disorder. I think you crossed the line. So yes you can be a natural size 00.

Neither of you are right you both need to work on your problems. She shouldn't keep complaining about how skinny she is if she knows that your over weight its not nice. And it does sound like your a little bit jealous. You probpbly crushed her when you told her that you think that she throws up her food. Having an eating disorder is not healthy and thats not sumthing that you should want people to think that you have.

Answer 18

you sound like you're the mean one. not every person has the same metabolism obviously. i have known plenty of people in my life who eat and never gain weight. it's called genetics. genetics has to do with a lot of things in life that have to do with your body and the way it reacts to certain things. sounds like you and your mom are just upset that you aren't super skinny. get over it.

Answer 19

I have a best friend who is 44 who has a fast metabolism. She has a horrible time trying to gain weight. I was jealous of it in the beginning of our friendship, but now I see the difficulty she goes through. She struggles as much as I do at losing weight.

If you were her true friend, you wouldn't hold her weight against her. Plus, is she DOES have an eating disorder, she is obviously disturbed, so you need to be there for her, not ridicule her.

Answer 20

This girl i know is 14 and only weighs 65 pounds. She has to take growing shots and her sister is the same way, skinny and short.

Answer 21

She probably DOSEN'T have an eating disorder I had a VERY fast metabolism when i was a kid OMG I would eat like you wouldn't belive my parents called me Jethro Jr LOL I think i would have gotten upset if someone said I had an ED too I was like 5' 7 115 pounds soaking wet i wouldn't worry about your friend and moms aren't always right just so you know!!

Answer 22

when i was younger i was really skinny you could see the bones on my neck and everything and i ate well loads i didn't seem to put any weight thought so yes she can just be skinny and not have a eating disorder, but then when i turned bout 17 i started putting all weight on and now i have to watch what i eat so it will all catch up with her one day

Answer 23

Well, your friend can't blame you for being worried. I have a friend like that, but instead of eating a lot she hardly eats a thing. We worry about her so much. It seems as if you could have found a different approach to her though.

Her defensiveness could mean two things. She is tired of people accusing her of eating disorders when she doesn't have one. Or she has an eating disorder and is scared that you are on to her. Either way she reacted wrongly to your accusations.

You can be a size 00 naturally. Some people just have unnaturally fast metabolisms. But from the way it sounds your friend very well could have an eating disorder. But I don't know her, so don't go diagonoing her on what I say. Don't accuse her again. She will simply be defensive (for whatever reason, insulted or guilty.) and your friendship will be in even more jeoprody.

The way I see it, you were sort of both in the wrong. I think that you should just apologize to your friend. She might apologize, too. I don't know. Either way at least you were the responsible friend. You should never consider her a really close friend again though. Her harsh words were wrong. Very wrong. You never ever accuse someone else of being jealous of you. It is s****. and extremly rude.  

I really hope you get all this cleared up with your friend. I will pray for you and for her. Best of luck to you both.  

Answer 24

ok, pre getting pregnant I was 5'7 and never weighed over 105 pounds my entire life (pregnant at age 24), my mother is in her 40's and doesn't ever weigh over 130 my biological father was 6'1 and only 175, I did NOT or ever will have an eating disorder, she really may have a high metabolism, sorry dear but your mother is wrong she may just have a high metabolism like my whole family does. Are her parents or mom skinny or was super skinny when she was younger? That could be a good indicator, after having a baby your metabolism may slow down a bit.

Answer 25

She probably just has a fast metabolism. It is possible you know. I have a skinny friend who eats a lot, and I KNOW she isn't buleimic. I think you were wrong because you accused her of something that can offend a lot of people.  

Answer 26

you and your mom need some serious education and it does sound like you are jelous of her....actually a fast metabolism can cause you not to gain weight or keep you slim...

My sister is 30 and has always been a size 0 or 1, very skinny and she eats and eats. she does not have an eating disorder, she has a high metabloism which prevents her from gaining weight.

Grow up and leave your friend alone. She is right and you are wrong

Answer 27

How tall is she? That's one thing I don't think you mentioned throughout this whole rant.

If she has personality issues, by all means, don't be her friend, but what does the skinniness have to do with it? It seems like most of this is complaints because your friend is skinny. If she lies and is manipulating, don't be her friend, but it sounds like you are jealous, as most of this revolves are her weight.

Your mum is wrong. Some people do have a fast metabolism. You seem extremely quick to point the finger in her direction because you don't want to believe fast metabolism exists, when it is, indeed, a real thing.

It is possible she doesn't have an ED. I'm 5'3" and 105 pounds, and I eat everything I want to eat. I'll tell you now that I don't spend my time puking in the bathroom- but I really do have fast metabolism. I also walk around a lot, and take dance classes twice a week.

Maybe she just does have a quick metabolism and she takes care of herself with exercising.

Answer 28

I'm really skinny like your friend.  I was 103lbs before I was pregnant with my first child.  I never had an eating disorder and had been to many doctors to try to figure out how I could gain weight. To no avail nothing has worked for me and I lost most of my pregnancy weight.

I think that it's mean that you called her out like that and tell her she just pukes it up.  What if she did have an eating disorder, you probably just crushed her like no tomorrow.  

Some people are just naturally skin and bones.  I was my whole life and was always called anorexic and bulimic and it's because people were jealous.  It's really crushed my self esteem for a long time.

I think you owe your friend an apology.

Edit:  I could pack away almost an entire large pizza by myself.  I ate like it was going out of style and I would still be able to eat again a couple hours later.

Answer 29

Have u ever considered dancing with her in the moonlight?

Answer 30

Well it wasn't right to accuse her like that, because you have absolutely no evidence she has an eating disorder other than her being 90lb and a size 4.

On the other hand her calling you overweight is ridiculous. A UK size 12 is not fat.

Answer 31

I am 27 and still a size 4.  I have been since high school.  I don't know at what age I was a 00 because they didn't have those sizes in the 1990's.  You just wore kids clothes.  Yes, I think your friend is right, although if you see definite signs of an eating disorder, I would tell one of her parents.  So far it just looks like she has a great metabolism.  

See it from her point of view.  She's super skinny, but people are mean to her about it and accuse her of throwing up her food.  They treat her different because they're jealous.  She probably wouldn't mind gaining a few pounds just to shut you up, but she can't.  Does she have b***s?  I used to try to put on weight to grow bigger b***s, but the scale never budged.  

I'm 4 months pregnant now and eating constantly because I STILL haven't gained any weight.  

You and your mom are wrong, as long as you don't see any signs that she's got an eating disorder- like catching her throw up, cuts on her knuckles, not eating, pushing food aound her plate without eating it...google it.