My sob story...if you don't have anything positive to say, then just move along.

Question

Well, it's official. I'm completely 100 percent hideous. Uglier than sin itself..."sigh* I guess you could say my confidence isn't exactly soaring right now. I mean, what the h**l am I supposed to do? I don't even want to go out of the house anymore. Most of you are lucky. You don't know what it's like to be in my position.To have people luagh at you, make fun of you, remind you day in and day out what a failure you are. And that's just my little brother! Well, I'm so sick of it! I'm honestly scared for those around me...I think I might be going insane. I constantly her this voice in my head...it reminds me of how ugly I am, of how lonely I am, of how I'll never find love...it's scaring me, I think one of these days I'm just gonna snap and hurt someone.

I don't mean to rant here, but...I guess I've kinda been a loner for my whole life. No one's there for me, at all. My family ver rarely shows any kind of compassion for me. My brothers and my sister hate me. No, I'm not exaggerating, they plot against me. And I don't even know why. The only time my dad talks to me is when he thinks I'm doing something wrong. I don't have any real friends, none who would stand by me through thick and thin.

I want all this to change, I really do, but how? No one gives me the time of day, and...I don't know where to begin...

Answer 1

I'm so sorry. How long have you felt this way? I really don't know what to say that might help. Please, please try to see a counselor. Do you have one at your school? I'm not a professional, but it sounds like you're dealing with significant depression and a tough situation. You need someone who can help you see things differently; that's the first step to changing all this in my opinion. You need someone who can give you sound advice on how to deal with your family and social situations and someone who will give you ways to feel better about yourself. Please do try to get help. It doesn't mean that you're insane or mentally ill, it just means that you need some advice. Please do it. I hope you feel better soon.

Answer 2

moving along then

Answer 3

ok BOO STINKING HOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!! jeez ppl die here for stuff like murders and c**p and ur sitting around thinking of a way for ppl to growpitty on you??? IDIOT! wow you think your ugly well your inthe wrong putting this in the teen section when hello teens DONT CARE how you feel b.c your ugly and some ppl think ur hot hek my friend does from that pic u put up! ok? so yea no lie im serious ok? so srry but u just got a slap of LIFE!!!!

Answer 4

Sai Ram. Pronounced as Saayee Raam, it is a greeting, a mantra and also a blessing to you.U show the intellectual aspect of your psyche and your real need to know. Happiness is the only purpose of life,.I feel as if you are tired of life so i guess your question is how to get happiness? Search deep within and try to know who you are. Who is seeking the answer to the question? Who is that you? Find that real you behind all the layers that are heaped upon by society and its conditioning.

Believe in yourself

Be brave...but it's ok to be afraid sometimes

Study hard

Give lots of kisses

Laugh often

Don't be overly concerned with your weight, it's just a number

Always try to see the glass half full

Meet new people, even if they look different to you

Remain calm, even when it seems hopeless

Take lots of naps..

Be weird whenever you have the chance

Love your friends, no matter who they are

Don't waste food

RELAX

Take an occasional risk

Try to have a little fun each day.

...it's important

Work together as a team

Share a joke with friends

Fall in love with someone..

...and say "I love you" often

Express yourself creatively

Be conscious of your appearance

Always be up for surprises

Love someone with all of your heart

Share with friends

Watch your step

It will get better

There is always someone who loves you more than you

i found out the longer you sit there and feel bad about yourself, the longer your gonna feel depressed. You wonder why nobody cares, why nobody wants to be around you. The reason why nobody wants to be around you is because YOU ARE DEPRESSED. you bring them down when you come around. You git ti get up and fight your through it. The minute you get up and change your attitude about what's going on, the other stuff starts to change. whatever is kicking you and trying to push you down, i say kick it back. The first thing you got to do is open uo the curtains, put on some good music, take a shower, put on a good face, and open up the door and go out and see the world.Your sitting around hoping someine will fix it but, it's got to be fixed through you. You can't say "please, god help me." God is not gonnaa do anything if only try and help yourself to.Don't hold things back. Say it.Deal with that emotion

These are the same principles I go by for my own, and the same I am teaching everybody. Always look to the positive. There is a positive in every situation, even the bad ones. They are learning experiences. Look to how you handle a bad situation, and learn from how you acted, and see how you can turn the negative into a positive next time. Every situation helps us to evolve, so every situation is good. Life is not worth wasting any moment on depression. I did for far too long, and I'll never do it again! But I don't regret my past, it has made me who I am, and I have learned a great deal about life from the way

I used to be. You can overcome anything. Nothing can stop you from enjoying life.

ONLY YOU CAN STOP YOU FROM ENJOYING LIFE

Answer 5

First of all, I'm sure you are gorgeous! I really, really, really, mean that! You are forgetting one person who is your friend and thinks your beautiful and loves you, God. I don't know if you are religious, but if you aren't try it out. Praying and reading my bible is one thing that always can bring a smile to my face. Also try searching for churches in your area (a wyldlife or younglife or K-Life would be awesome here) and email one of the leaders. They are so encouraging, and even if you decide religion isn't for you these people will still love you, and be there for you anytime you need it.

"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future" (Jeremiah 29:11).

The LORD your God is with you, he is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you, he will quiet you with his love, he will rejoice over you with singing" (Zephaniah 3:17).

Answer 6

Well, I guess a lot of people could say I'm ugly (I used to get the **** all the time in middle school because no one liked me) but a lot of people think I'm cute. Eventually you'll realize looks are stupid, and your going to tell that voice "I'm sick of hearing you criticize my face, jsut Shove it!" All those people who are dating those hot girls and guys, well they're going to get board with them pretty quick when they realize there is nothing going inside of their heads and they'll go for someone with more personality.

I think in the mean time you should try to get more confidence, and maybe see a physiologist about the voices, you may be suffering from a mental illness.

Answer 7

Woah.

I'm sooo moving along.  

Answer 8

You deserve much more respect from your family. They are your family, so they should be there for you. I'm sure there are lots of people who care a lot about you. You deserve to have people care about you and have a lot of friends. Just be yourself and start conversations with people. People will like you for who you are. And by the way, you aren't ugly, you just need more confidence, that's all. You are not 100 percent hideous. You just think that because of the people who make you feel that way. And you will find love. You'll find someone who will think you are cute and will love you for who you are. Don't worry, you are not going insane. All you need is more confidence, and you will be happier. I didn't have a lot of friends in 7th and 8th grade. I had one close friend, but the rest used to be my friends but got popular and stuck up. Don't worry about people who are like that. They are not worth it. Be happy to be who you are. Oh, and my dad can sometimes be like that. He'll talk to me, but talks to me more when he's angry, but we talk about good things too. I'm sure your family doesn't hate you. Try to spend more time with them and do fun things, like going to a park or going for ice cream(yum!). Listen to your favorite music. Whenever I'm feeling down, music always cheers me up. And read the Bible. When I read it, it feels comforting to me. Look for some jokes on the internet. Humor always helps - trust me! Jokes I always love are ones like 'Funny things to do at the Supermarket'. Do things you enjoy doing. Read a book or take a walk. Maybe go to the beach or go see a movie you've been wanting to see. I hope this helps! : )

Answer 9

listen to me, all those people remarks to you and those voices u hear in ur head are satan tryin to get to u and pull you under. i know its hard to go through that but all you need to do is turn the other way and go towards god. he's all you need in ur life. i know at sometimes u'll ask "god, if you love me y are you putting me through this?". its because he has a bigger plan in store for you than those people that make fun of you. and when you get older and become a father, if ur kids ever go through this stuff that ur goin through you'll be able to give them advice and cheer them up like im tryin to do to you. a good song for you to listen to would be "the unwinding cable car" by anberlin (a christian rock band) and if you become a christian (i dont know if u are or not) another good song would be "unbreakable" by fireflight (another christian rock band). and if you ever need anyone to talk to you can talk to me. so now you cant say you dont have any friends cause i'll be ur friend and now u just need to ignore those people that make fun of you cause god loves you the way you are. he's sees everybody equally so that means he goes past the looks (doesnt even care about them) and sees you from the inside out. but i guess thats it. talk to me if you ever need anything. bye.

Answer 10

I'm really sorry you feel this way about your life. Even though you think you may seem hideous on the outside, everyone has a great person and kind heart on the inside. Your family will love you no matter what even if they don't show it. Maybe you could have a family conversation and talk to them about how you feel and let them know what it feels like to be in your shoes. Have you tried making friends? Just be friendly and nice to everyone, and eventually people will start to want to hang out with you. Set up a day with people from your school to watch a movie or just hang out. Soon enough, these people will appreciate that you would be so kind to them and they will treat you back with respect and care. If you need to talk to a family member but they're busy, wait a couple minutes and ask again. If they are ignoring you, say it's urgent and you really need to talk. If none of this helps, talk to a school counselor about how you feel. Even if it seems lame to talk to a random teacher at school, sometimes everyone needs it. Don't think bad stuff about yourself because that will only lower your self esteem more and more. Strive to make new friends and talk to your family about what's going on and how you feel.

Good Luck!!!!!

Answer 11

Life in and of it's self can be a tremendous heartache and unfortunately for some of us it can be the people who are supposed to help ease our journey who make it all the more unbearable.  Just remember that while where your are right now seems so desolate in the end it will be up to you what your out come is.  "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent" ~Eleanor Roosevelt Don't change who you are unless you are changing for yourself, because in the end "Those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind" ~Dr Suess True friendship is so hard to come by so when you do find someone worthy of the title just treat them the way you want to be treated.  And remember while you may feel alone you are not.  There are so many people in this world who can empathize with you.  Just don't let insignificant people take away your life, your choices, or your opportunities.  

Answer 12

Are you me?

No, really...I must have written this and forgotten about it.

My mom and brother are horrible to me..

Your little brother and mine are just alike.

Lets not even start on my mom....

That voice talks to me too.

Mostly it sounds like my mom and her negative comments...

I feel all that stuff too.

This summer really showed me I have like no friends and it really sucks...

My mom today told me she doesn't care about me.

She made it official by showing my face with her hand just how much she didn't care.

I have nothing positive to say because right now I feel like getting smashed and drinking till I am happy.

You know how you have a flight or fight instinct well use the flight instinct, I have lately and it works out for me.

Just take off for a few hrs, go get a slurpee go to the park and swing. Go running.

If your town has bike trails go running on those.

Go hide at startbucks, sit in a chair and suck down some expresso.

Email me, I have more wonderful ideas...

Answer 13

wow. that sucks.  get a hobby, join a club of people with the same hobby and start there.  or be a better person maybe?  there has to be a reason why people don't like you.  maybe your exagerating a little?

Answer 14

To be honest when I was growing up, in middle school and such, I was pretty ugly too, and a loner, and always being made fun of. I had the worst acne in the entire school, it was so bad that even my principal took me into her office to talk about it, talk about embarassing. So I had a special perscription, and in 3 months it was all gone, I couldn't believe it. I'm 20 years old now, and to be honest, I only have 2 best friends, that I know would be there for me always. Maybe plasic surgery of some kind is good for u, depending on why you think you're so ugly, or maybe you need to find better friends, hang out with another crowd.

Answer 15

well you really shouldn't think of yourself as ugly. and i'm sure if you stop being so self-concious peope would want to be friends with you. i mean no disrespect but being supposedly ugly and not having friends is not the worst thing in the world. at least you don't have cancer or something like that.

Answer 16

sorry, i hope this all turns out better for you!  

Answer 17

You can't be THAT bad.  You're probably not even seeing yourself as you are.  If your family is abusive that is contributing to your low self image.  Do you have the means to see a therapist about your poor body image?  If not I would try to do a few things that ARE helpful: exercise daily, write in a journal when feeling overwhelmed, ignore your family as much as possible.  If you can't leave the house then you're limited about how much progress you'll ever make.  Look at yourself and find something you like about yourself.  Concentrate on that feature and tell yourself over and over, every day, what a great asset that is.  You need to re-program your mind with different thoughts.  It might sound impossible but it isn't.  I would also suggest a counselor or doctor to prescribe some medications if necessary.  I know how some people are very against any drugs to help with mood disorders, but it might be necessary in your case.  To ever achieve independence from an abusive family you need to get a job, save money and eventually get a place of your own.  Try self-discipline every day by making  yourself go out for a walk, even if only a minute.  As it gets easier do a little longer over time.  Fears can be overcome by facing them and chipping away a little at a time until they are conquered.  Sometimes people will insult each other in life, but you have to learn to let it slide off of you.  Hurting someone over your own pain isn't ever the way to go.  It's selfish and immature.  Do you want to have an ugly heart?   Ultimately that is the most important part of a person. So, you've got some work to do.  Get to it and good luck.  

Answer 18

I'm going to assume that you are young, a teenager? Listen, being a teenager is NOT easy at all! I was once where you are now. I know the feeling of thinking i am ugly or that people dont like me or that im a huge failure and my life will never amount to anything. let me tell you that you are not alone at all. there are so many young people in this world who feel this way very often. its the hardships of growing up. life is not easy and its hard to cope with it at first. also, you probably havent developed into your full mature body and mind yet, so of course you might feel "ugly", but know that you arent. one of these days you will gain confidence, but you will only do that through understanding that its not what others think of you, but what you think of yourself and how you believe in yourself. dont worry, this is just a phase, and one day you will look back on your life now and say "wow, i'm so glad i'm over that". Good luck. =)

Answer 19

well think about how you act towards others like do you talk to your family do you talk to people at school or do you usually just stay by yourself

you can meet new people and expect people to talk to you if you dont talk to them

and stop thinking that you are ugly, your not

you have to always think positve other wise it will show on the outside

if you dont like the way you are then change it you are the only person that has that ability to do that

what dont you like about your self how can you change that  

Answer 20

wow. and: ouch.

Answer 21

I know what you mean dude. The only thing that makes me feel better is music. So maybe jam out to some favorite bands? And im sure your a great person that doesnt deserve to be treated like that. But think positively, I'm sure you're better than the people trying to put you down anyways! Just don't let them get to you. They're like bullies, they only do it to get a reaction out of you so next time your sibs do anything to you just ignore them, walk away, and do your own thing. =]

And about the friendship thing. Try getting involved in things you like to do maybe take up a new class or after school activity. You'll meet some new people that will treat you right =].

Think positive and i hope things turn out wonderful =D

Answer 22

whoa.

I am not going to say that's it's easy or hard to be in your situation. Because I really don't know.

I would try to find creative ways to de-stress. Maybe writing in a journal, punching a pillow? You need to realize that there are so many worse things. Children are dying, there are people who are homeless.

As for your sibings...

Their immature, I'm sure they don't hate you, they just like teasing you.

I would talk to SOMEONE about how you feel.

I hope I helped.

(:

Answer 23

Right on. Awesome. Excellent. Marvelous.

Is that positive enough?

You're just going through a rough patch of life. It sucks, but you'll get through it.

Answer 24

Go speak to a counselor. There should be a free one at school. They will help you big time!

Answer 25

Don't worry what others think. If your little brother keeps making fun of you tell your mom (well depending on your age. If your like an adult now, just pull pranks on the little bugger. If not keep on reading the sentence.) and if  the kid calls you tattle tale or something like that then ignore him and tell your mom or you could black mail the little creep. Now if they don't listen to you then talk to someone else like the kids help hotline. Oh and if strangers really do call you ugly just say "what say what you are" That always works with my vain cousin.

Answer 26

HINT: if you stop feeling sorry for yourself, people will respect you more..

I think you are cute.. you just need to jive other people a chance.. You need to know that you are going to be in charge of your own life.. concentrate on something that you know how to do really well and go from there..

you can not expect other people to respect you if you don't even respect yhourself..

Good Luck.. hope this helped..

Answer 27

awww, come on  , yuo are awesome ,trust me when you get older,you are ganna look and feel better. you know cause your body will stop changing and ,you know puberty!  i am tottaly in love with josh peck, even though he wasnt that attractive. but when he got a little bit oolder he looked HOT!!!