My son..11 yrs acting up again in school.got a call from principal at 1:30..its now 7:30 and im still fuming?

Question

i didnt yell scream or anything i was actually calm,.,,,im real hurt by him because i thought he had a handle on acting up in class....i cannot get over it for some reason or get my mind off of it....please help...am i wrong to still be upset....he thinks im overreacting

Answer 1

There is nothing more you can do about it today.  Did you talk to your son about his behavior?  Have you given him a punishment?  That's all you can do for now until the next time he does it.  Give yourself a break.  Let it go.

Answer 2

sounds like he is over due for a punishment,.

start taking away his favorite things. that will get him on track in a blink of an eye.

Answer 3

kids kids kids! ok there's a fine line with everything and most of the time its all to do with psychology or reverse psychology.

I hear you say your son thinks you are over reacting! now i am under the impression that you may not have a relatioship anymore with his dad? possibly.  If this is a case! this is due to dad leaving, and statistics show that most cases its due to a recent breakup.

Now if this is not the case and because you limited on what actually happened in school, if he said you are over reacting is this his normal way of talking? is he the one whos taking control of the house hold, has he an attitude with you or with dad? or just your self if you are split up.

People allways say!! Punish him, do this do that! well your going to be doing this over and over and over and over and over and over! and take things from him, and do everything possible! and still carries on and for everytime you do this he will resent you doing so.

Sooooo we have to get to the root of the problem! this is where i feel it has to be tackled, whyyy is he doing this.  Is it at home, at school? is it a group of friends hes around, analyse him watch him without being down his neck!

theres toooones of way to win him back over! but dont just take stuff away from him!

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Answer 4

Well what did he do?

At 11 there is really no excuse for it honestly. He knows what the rules are and chose to act otherwise.  

Answer 5

> Our kids have a way to make us feel guilty even if we know or think we are right >

You didn't say what he did but I remember you had a problem some time back with your daughter on the bus  ( am I right about this?) Maybe  your feelings may be a combination of the problems of both kids and the trouble or problems they have had so close together> We as parents have to act like a God to our children and are supposed to fix all their problems ,,when in reality > have a hard enough time trying to fix ours .

If you didn't scream and he thinks your overacting, Maybe you need to yell or scream to make your self feel better > It sounds like your more disappointed than angry with him> Maybe you can tell him this if in fact this is so>

You sound like myself,,,when I get upset about something I feel I cant control I have a hard time getting it out of my mind> get a good nights sleep and I'm betting tomorrow things will not seem as bad> Good Luck.