My son's father told me today that his mom won't have time or wont pay attention to my son!!!!!?

Question

his lil sister jus had a baby, and now she doesn't have time for my son. my mother is 10 years older than her and has a full time job and also has 2 grand kids(my son and my niece) and my mom has never told my niece she has no time for her cause of my son. me and my son's father are furious as well as hurt about this rejection of our son. my son is mixed race, with me being black and his father mexican, his sister's daughter is full mexican... it's been 3 weeks since she spent time with my son. can anyone give me advice on why people are like this? i have a beautiful son who doesn't need her to except him.. but wat am i going to tell him when he asks why his grandmother doesn't want him around? is it cause he's mixed? or is it cause her daughter's new baby girl means more to her than my son?

Answer 1

Why tell him anything that will only hurt him? Why worry about it until he IS older and DOES ask.

Should that day come, just say his grandmother is a busy woman. He'll learn about her if she is racist soon enough, all on his own.

Thing of it is.. you don't know for certain thats what is going on. Did she have time for him before? It may be nothing against him in the least. If your sons fathers little sister is very young, and this is her first child, maybe grandma truly is just busy trying to help the new mom get adjusted to parenting. I mean think about it, back to when your son was new, and you were only just starting out being a mom. It was hard wasn't it? Now, factor in if daddy's sister is much younger than you were when you had him.

If, however, you do think it's regarding race issues, then ask your sons dad, to talk to his mom, let him ask her what her deal is, and if thats what it's about, he can straighten her out. Although, if I were you, I wouldn't want her straightened out, I mean, really, if she can't see beyond race to love her own grandson for who he is, why would you even want her to be near him? Personally, I think I would want to keep my child as far away from her as humanly possible, so he wouldn't have to be exposed to that type of ignorance.

By doing that, you can teach him how to be a better person, to love, without hating, to see.. without seeing color. Kids learn from those who they are around, so if grandma does have her undies in a bunch, because he isn't fully Mexican, that's her problem. It just means she'll never know what a wonderful boy he will become.. that she won't have a chance to spread her poison to him. Be grateful.

Answer 2

If your baby's Mom doesn't love her grandson because he is mixed, then I would keep your son away from her. That is very sad. I think maybe what is really going on here is that she isn't sure her son is the father.....and that she is closer to her daughter than she is to her son. It may have nothing to do with you or your son. Just be aware if she doesn't have time for him, leave her alone. Your son shouldn't be subjected to someone that doesn't love him anyway,

Answer 3

if she doesn't have time for your son then i guess you shouldn't have any time for her.  it sad that she feels that way, and a wee bit irrational as my hubbys mum has 7 grand daughters including mine plus 3 other kids from her husband cheating on her (yes they are still together!!) and she has time for all of them.  tell your son that grandma is too busy right now and leave it at that.  what does your hubby have to say about all this?  will he tell his mum that shes wrong?