My son's step-mom and his father sat in my seat (on the aisle) at my son's wedding. Is there legal recourse?

Question

My son's step-mom, who lives in Littleton, CO, has harrassed me for 25 years--since the divorce. I raised my son alone from 8 months old and my ex has the nerve to sit in my seat at the wedding. I know she was behind the whole thing. I didn't get to see my grand niece and nephew walk down the aisle. The day was spoiled for me. Any suggestions?

Answer 1

get over it; it was not  your day anyway

Answer 2

Please don't bog down an already overloaded legal system with a case over who sat where at a wedding! While I understand your frustration and sympathize, it's hardly worth the time, expense and stress to take that route.  You can either:

A. Pick up the phone and have a major confrontation with her and him, which will only make a bad situation worse.

B. Put your feelings in writing and then throw out the bad feelings with the letter.

C. Let it fester under your skin for the next 20 years and let them win by being miserable.

D. Don't let them ruin the rest of your life - if you do they win! Let it go and consider the source...if she's that 'small' of a person to do what she did and that's what it takes to make her happy - feel sorry for her, but don't play her game.

Answer 3

Technically the first row is reserved for family, and the father is family, unless the seats were marked as mother of the groom and such there is no real assigned seating at a wedding only the reception. The most important thing is watching your son get married, and you got to see that. there is no legal recourse for someone  sitting in your seat.

Answer 4

It's unfortunate that you let this ruin the wedding day. The ushers should have made them move. There is nothing you can do about it now.

Answer 5

I'm sorry, but I doubt very much that there is any legal recourse against someone who committed a violation only of tradition and etiquette.  It was certainly cloddish and perhaps spiteful of this woman to take your seat and deprive you of the best view of your son's wedding, and if you had anticipated that they might do such a thing, you could have asked your son to instruct the ushers to seat his father and stepmother in the second pew and reserve the front one for you.  However, I fear that the best thing you can do after the fact is to rise above it.

Answer 6

They should have been directed on where to sit. If you went to the rehearsal then they should have gone over all of that with you. It is the ushers responsibility to seat people in their correct spots.

I'm positive there is nothing that can be done legally, but if they did it on purpose, then that was just rude. As for the day being spoiled for you, I am so sorry that happened.

As long as the day went smoothly for your son and his new wife, then that is what matters. Nice to know that you didn't cause a stink at the wedding and ruin their day as well.

Answer 7

The only suggestion I can give, is grow up and move on.

Answer 8

Hi.  I sympathize with you, I really do....but I am assuming that you are old enough to know that you have no legal recourse.  You can't sue someone over sitting in a seat at

a wedding.  

Sorry....it's a family issue....not an issue for the courts.

Answer 9

restraining order?

Answer 10

I do not think you have any legal recourse. How sad that this happened! I am so sorry.

Why didn`t the usher seat them where they were supposed to be?

If they slid over -- I would have wished an usher would have come over to...well...be a bouncer -- especially if it was a younger son or nephew or good friend of your son.

I am sorry I have no advice for you. Like I said I wish an usher had been available to play bouncer and re-seat the stepmother where she was supposed to be.

Not sure what Littleton has to do with anything to be honest since we do not know where you live.

You cannot unring the bell or bring back the day.

What you can do is -- I am guessing you have the better relationship with your son and since you raised him alone his father did not have visitation with him or pay child support while he was growing up so his invitation to the wedding came more out of a sense of obligation on your son`s part more than anything else...

You have the advantage to form a better relationship with your son and new daughter in law. You will be the grandparent of any grandkids who may come along. You can be sure you will always have these fantastic individuals in your life.

That will last longer than one day.

Be well.

Answer 11

Most likely jealousy is behind all of the ongoing harassment you have suffered-

I doubt there is any legal recourse for the jealous and ignorant actions of another person.

It's unfortunate you allowed your ex-husband's wife to ruin what should have been a very special day for you, because she sounds as if she is a very insecure person.

Answer 12

How about counseling to try to deal with your issues.

It sounds like they might need it, too, but you can only help yourself.

Yes, it sucks, but it sounds like you - thankfully - had the smarts to not ruin your son's wedding day by causing a scene.

Answer 13

Secretly pay the photographer $$$ to airbrush 20 lbs & 10 yrs on her on the official photos and then sit back and laugh!

Answer 14

There isnt anythign you can do!  This isnt a legal situation, its personal!

Answer 15

Lol

There are NO LEGAL ACTIONS that can be taken.

Technically ushers should have seated everyone in there correct spots. If they didn't have ushers then people are left to there own divices to sit where they please.

Just let it go.

It is over with, the wedding is through.

Time To Move On.

Answer 16

So where did you sit that you couldn't see?

And how has this woman harassed you if you were raising your son alone?

I know seeing everything concerning the wedding was very important to you, but surely you can try to find some joy in the fact that you got to see your son marry?

I think you might want to find a counselor you can talk with.  There are some very good free agencies in your town.  Call one.  You sound very bitter.

Answer 17

what is done is done...the ushers should have put you in the seat that you should have been assigned to.  you should have asked them to scoot over or tell them that they are sitting in your seat.  sorry that you didnt get the seat that you wanted but dont let their immaturity spoil your happiness...dont dwell on it.  try to avoid seeing those two in the future...im sure you can make arrangements with your son to visit him with out his father and step moms presence.  the only legal recourse is a restraining order against them...but is it that bad to put a legal action against them?  wish you luck and happiness.