My son (6 years old, a kindergartern student ), "hates school"?

Question

My 6 year old boy told me "he hates school" and do not want to go to school. I think this was not the firts time, but it made me worry too much.

I asked why?

He said, "kids in his class do not play with him in play ground, so I have to sit down and watch them play rather than participate". This happen at PE class and even some times at lunch".

1. Does anyone has similar experience ?

2. What could be the source of such problem at school ?

3. What is the best strategy to solve shuch issues ?

Answer 1

First off, talk to his teacher.  I would ask if there is a guidance counselor at school as well and let that person in on what is going on.

A withdrawn child will not learn so this is a legitimate concern.  Depending on the school, most teachers are trained to handle these types of situations.

I would ask if the teacher can give you some insight as to what is going on during the times that your son is having these feelings.  The occurrences seem to be related to physical activity associated within groups, whether in a structured or unstructured environment.  You may find that situations are more pronounced to him than to the observer, so having the adults in his school take special note (discreetly, of course) certainly can shed some light on what is happening.  This may be a simple matter of him needing some attention and encouragement.

Answer 2

1.ive seen it happen but i always help kids who are like that and show them how fun it is to play and communicate with other kids =]

2.the problem can be that he MIGHT not be friendly or the other kids might be disliking your child for some reason

3. the best way is to go and observe without him knowing your there

Answer 3

i would speak to the teacher and find out how he is doing at school, they could best tell you maybe the teacher could think of a way for him to be included in play with the other kids if this is the issue

Answer 4

Your best bet would be to speak with the teacher. As a teacher, at times we have so much going on we are not aware of a situation such as this. If you talk to us we can come up with a plan, that does not single out your son, but creates a plan to gently encourage him to join in, as well as encourage other children to play with him. Implementing small group and all-class activities is one way to help with this problem.